C.J.
To give you some first hand advice. When I first started dating my ex husband, I was the first girl he had been with since his sons mom. My step son didnt like me at first, he wouldnt listen to me, when i would tell him things he would run to his dad. He would ask his dad to read to him, ask his dad to go outside with him, and made it clear i wasnt a part of the plan. I kept being nice, I never lost my patience, and i kept telling him i loved him. When we got married, I asked him to be in the wedding he was thrilled, we had a special part of the wedding just for him, where i pinned a flower on his suit in front of everyone. So he had a special moment, for him. As time went on we became very close, I divorced his dad almost 3 years ago. He was 6 when i met him, hes 14 now. I still keep in touch with him, he has come to stay the night at my house to see his brother and sister. We have gone places together, and he still calls me to tell me what is going on his life. After I divorced his dad, he told me that he wished we would have stayed together forever, because he loves me, and he didnt want me to leave his dad. What a difference from the very beginning. Tell your bf to be patient. I know its hard sometimes, but in time she will be ok. Even though I am not married to my xhusband anymore, I still love my stepson dearly, as if he were one of my own. It just takes one day at a time.