Hi, I'm wondering if anyone has any ideas or ways to meet guys. I have a sister who is single and looking to find the right guy but is having no success. She has tried match.com with no luck. She is 27 and doesnt want to find someone in a bar. She does daycare with me and is going back to school at St. Kates, which is an all girls school. What ways have worked for you or someone you know? All of her friends are married, live out of state or try to set her up with the wrong guys, so they are not much help. She really wants to find the right guy and have kids eventually, so any suggestions would be so helpful. Thanks
Thanks everyone. Im going to try to get her to keep doing the online dating for a little longer. She might also try joining an adventure group. I suppose I should clarify, she goes to the Minneapolis campus of St. Kates and is going to school for Sonography so there are no guys in her classes. She also has a lot of younger girls who have just entered college in her classes not to say they dont have an older brother. She is only there for an hour or 2, 3 days per week so not much time. Thanks for all the advice I will keep her looking. She wants to give up and I think she needs to keep trying. Eventually, she will find someone.
If she is the tiniest bit athletic, I recommend taking up a sport like whitewater kayaking. It is a great way to meet guys and there is a high ratio of guys in their 20's relative to women. She can start by taking a rolling class this winter. The RapidsRiders chapter of the Minnesota Canoe Association usually offers winter activities and then a full river course in the spring.
That is how my husband and I met:)
I'll second the online dating. My younger brother, also 27, did match.com and eharmony for over two years before he met his current girlfriend. Things are very serious between them, but it just took a long time to find the right person! Good luck to her!
Just to clarify: St Kate's is historically a women's school, but they're coed (though still predominantly female) now. I was in the Library Science program there, and I'd say it was about 75% female. So definitely get involved in school, and look around for organizations that give her a chance to meet people too. Anywhere she's likely to meet people with similar interests is a good choice, and there are millions of organizations around here that cater to every possible interest. I'd say look around school first, then look for a club or organization to join where she might meet people who are into the same things. You never know who you'll meet! (And to be fair, I did meet my husband in a bar; I was reading a novel while waiting for a friend, and he was watching "X-Files" on the TV. We started talking, and my friend finally convinced him to ask me out. We just celebrated our fifth anniversary!) : )
I second the online option, while I didn't really have any success on match.com, I did find my husband and love of my life on eharmony.com. We just celebrated our one year anniversary this past weekend. One thing that eharmony offers that match.com doesn't is the personality profile, I think that help to "weed" out those that you have absolutly nothing in common and help to narrow things down and make the process of finding that special guy a bit easier. Good luck and hang in there.
L. N.
Well she sure isn't choosing the right career or school to give her the oportunity to meet guys. Would she consider a school where guys would be also or has she already started? Church?
Have her keep trying the on line thing...i met my husband on line. But also tell her to be open to the guys she is meeting and getting set up with. Dont blow someone off because they have a weird haircut, bad car etc....make sure to give the guys a chance. Be willing to go on a lot of first dates and second dates if the guy is half decent. i know, i met a lot of good guys in my 20's but had this ideal of the perfect guy: cute, rich, etc. and blew a lot of good guys off..what i see is important now is honest, trusting, good father etc....
College is a great place to meet people, get active in clubs, go to lectures, concerts, etc...and its okay to go to an all girls school, they do joint activities with other schools...and hey, why not meet some great girlfriends that have nice brothers, co-workers to set her up with too!!
