Dating and Being a Mommy?

PLEASE slow down and think for a minute. I'm not sure how old you are but you sound young. No matter how cute/sweet this guy is you don't even know him yet. As a mom you have a responsibility to be careful about who you allow into your home. I know you are probably lonely and so many men will take advantage of that vulnerability.
If you are only interested in casual dating and sex, then fine, but for goodness sake get a sitter and go out, don't bring these guys into your house, that is so irresponsible and creepy it makes me shudder!
If you want to meet a nice guy and get married again some day then go slow, date without sex for a while, get to know each other, meet his family and friends and coworkers. It takes a LONG time to build a relationship, especially when children are involved.

well, since you asked...if it were me, I would want my next man to have a better job than selling snacks at the bus depot and probably wouldn't let him know where I lived or sleep with him until I really knew what he was about and felt good that this was someone I wanted around for the long haul. After my divorce it took a LONG time for me to start dating again and then when I met someone I was serious with (my now husband), it took a LONG time for me to bring my kids around him. I wanted to take time to learn from my marriage and work on myself before getting involved with someone else. I also wanted to make sure my kids were emotionally "better" from the divorce as well as focus on my business. So maybe you can do this too. Learn what you want/don't want from your last relationship and don't settle for anything less. And if you don't find it, be happy by yourself and take care of your child. Good luck!

I don't think you can ever be too careful about who you introduce to your child. I think it was too early for your child to see you with another man.

What did he say if you asked if you were being played?
I suspect you were--if you had to ask.

I'd say chalk it up to a life lesson.

wow, you didn't even go out on a date but had him over?
how old are you?
slow down. you may be putting your child in danger bringing strangers home like that.

I also hope you do not get mean responses and I in no way am trying to hurt you.

To each his own as far as how fast you get intimate with someone but, hello... you just met this guy and he is sleeping over the first time you are together with your child there. Neither of you were thinking with the right brain on that one... You are either in the process of a divorce or newly divorced and already in bed with someone else? Get a vibrator.... You'll be safer against a surprise preganancy and STD's.

This sounds so much like rebound. Please, make your child #1, keep your child safe. If you rebound like this, you'll end up with another "slimy" husband.

Wait for the right one to come along who respects you and will treat you like a woman. Someone who is career minded, family oriented and does not just think about sex for fun. Give yourself some time to grow emotionally so you'll be ready for the next step.

I agree... if you have to ask if you got played then you got played.

I hope you don't get a lot of mean responses....but I would J. be very careful when bringing someone new over, and introducing guys to the baby....I saw a therapist on how to do this, and he said once every 3 to 4 weeks kids should see someone as a friend if you're dating and want to start to incorpoate the child, until it gets verrry serious, then slowly more time, and no affection in front of the child until then too...but to each their own, but I would say guys like a chase, and you ended the chase to fast! I did that my first person after my ex...
btw I'm confused, 2 weeks ago, he was your husband in your other post....I hope you're not hurt and rebounding quick...if you need to talk pm M., I've been going through the divorce process for what seems like forever=)

Take it slow... you don't even know this person and he's sleeping in your house with your young toddler in another room. Take it slow. Get to know each other emotionally, and hang out without getting physically involved, and don't bring this man into your house. It sounds like maybe you rushed into things with your ex, who not only a month ago you were still married to. Don't make the same mistake out of loneliness or rebounding or whatever. Take control of your life first, then think about dating. Look for a man who is stable and respectful... he doesn't sound like either of these, and you really don't sound like you are in an emotionally sound position to be bringing home strange men. Take it slow.

hey girlie, well thankfully nobody's really bashing your character too bad. it's very hard being single & lonely & recently divorced...i understand that and i'm sure most of the mommas do.
wellll.....now that you got that hot sex outta your system - you're good, right?! :) LOL! :) i've done that before and now it's been over a year since i had sex w/anyone...except the vibrator (ha ha). but for real, you got it out your system, in hindsight you see that *maybe* it wasn't the BEST idea, but everything's okay. you're okay, your baby's okay...just don't do it again. i'm still very single but i think a little older, not sure, but i can pretty much tell when a guy's gonna work out or not b/c when you do it too early, then there's nothing left. (speaking from experience here mama, not judgement - i promise!!!) i'll put $5 on it, that in 6 months or a year from now, you'll remember that guy but he won't still be in your life, except a night of good sex! hey, that's okay! i'm not saying anything wrong w/that, i guess i just been there done that too many times and can call it!
anyway, let it ride clyde, i don't think this is going anywhere. you had a brief moment of fun (woo-hoo), now switch focus back to you & your sweet boy. as hard as it is, that's what us single mamas gotta do. :)
no sex for us... :(

I agree with some of the other moms. I'm not trying to sound mean, but I definitely think you probably let things happen too quickly and if you feel like you got played enough to ask, then you probably are getting played. Slow down and don't let guys spend the night the first night you spend with them. I would stop calling him and see if he still wants to talk to you, and if he doesn't, forget him. I did this with my now boyfriend when we started "casually" dating and after literally a day, he was texting me asking me what I was doing and when he could see me again. Most guys I know don't like to know that the girl is thinking about them so much. They like the chase. Also a reason to not give in so quickly to your urges.

I would say that if your going to start dating again, you need to go slow, especially when it comes to being around your kid. Don't let them come up into your house and be around your child until you have been dating for a while and you know that this is a guy who is going to stick around. I didn't meet my boyfriends daughter for the first time until we were exclusively dating, which was about 4 months after we started casually dating. I had no problem waiting this long as he always talked about her to me and explained that he wanted to make sure there was something there before he started bringing his daughter into his relationship. I was only around her once every month for the first couple of months. Then he started bringing her around every other week. Now I see her at least once a week, sometimes she stays over at our apartment for whole weekends, but it took a year and a half of dating and her little brother to be born before that happened. Me and her have a great relationship and I know that if me and her father ever end things, it will be hard because me and her have become so close. Her dad and I are still restrictive of how affectionate we are around her. She knows that we are a couple, but even then she is still pretty young, so we try not to be too "lovey" around her. Children attach to individuals and don't understand break-ups easily (as I'm sure you've seen with your recent divorce). Even if he's young, he's recognizing people and deciding who he's comfortable with. So if you want to date, do so, but maybe get a babysitter and go out of the house with the guy for a while before letting him stay the night, for both you and your kid.