C.B.
I have a 4 year old step daughter that we have had kinda the same situation with. What we have chosen to do is make a rewards chart. When she is good and participates in the whole class she can put a sticker on the chart. But if she doesn't participate she doesn't get a sticker. We have it set up after 4 times (since she is 4) she gets to pick a reward (lunch with dad/something from the store). This made it so she was excited to go and participate but didn't give her the option of giving up. She doesn't seem to pay attention to what the other kids are doing as much or who is or who isn't there.