Custody Help!!! - Los Angeles,CA

visitation is independent of support. He doesn't have to pay support in order to see his son. If he has not seen his son in the last year b.c of his choice, you can probably start the process to TPR (terminate his parental rights). You will need an attorney to do so. However, if you have blocked him in the last year and he can prove for any reason that you have kept him from seeing his son, then you will probably have a hard time terminating his rights.

These are all questions you should be asking an attorney, not on mamapedia.

You said you made a "side deal" - was this deal entered as a court order? If so, filing a motion to modify or whatever is applicable in your situation is something the attorney will discuss with you.

One cannot "make a deal" to not pay child support. The money is for the benefit of the child. Just because you don't "want" the money doesn't mean he won't be ordered to pay it.

I don't know about CA, but in Pa support does not entitle visitation. They are two separate entities.
Just because a father is behind/late on the support does not mean his visitation is denied.
I think you need to take him to court to get the support your son deserves.
And let him petition for visitation if he's interested.
You can travel with your child even though you have different last names!
Sounds like you might need some legal advice as to the parental rights. It's pretty hard to terminate parental rights if the person isn't willing to do so, I think.
Good luck.

I would look into having his rights terminated and still going after him for child support. It is still his child and he should still help support him even if he doesn't want to have anything to do with him. I would contact an attorney to see what options you have in Calf because every state is different. You could also call the attorney general's office and they may offer going after him for child support for free.

Edit: We too have learned to NEVER trust an ex they are an ex for a reason.

go to child support and sign papers against him he will lose his drivers liscense and everything. they will garnish his wages and taking him back to court will cost money but if he is out of the pic why worry. tell him he has to pick his son up from your house and he wont show up and none of this will be an issue anymore. i know been there done that. he has rights let him have them but he will never show up so why worry about it. by the way did you divvorce my ex???? :) they act just alike

ps if you take away his rights it will be a poor me the witch took away my rights but if you dont take away his rights he cant blame you. but he probably will anyway he will make up reasons. like mine did "i am afraid if i try to see my son she will have me arrested" "she hasnt let me see my kid in 3yrs. " he forgets to say he never showed up or called or cared enough to try.

You need to get a lawyer and get this mess settled!
Court documents are your best bet that will keep things where they need to be!
Best of luck!

Custody arrangements and child support are 2 separate things. I agree with Rose C.---contact your lawyer asap and document everything.

I believe that if his work status has changed you can go back to court or file papers to get the child support payment reviewed.

And if he's missing dr appts for your child, and having your child in bars at 2 am, I would think that the court would discontinue his visitation, in an official capacity, except for supervised visits.

Only a lawyer and a ;judge and make a deal You must get help and
make every thing legal and hope it works out well.