B.M.
I have been in a similar situation in the past and the best advice I can give you is to be as patient as possible. With regards to the smoking pot, has your husband reported this to the courts? He may be able to get her to submit to drug testing (he would have to pay for it)for a few months. I'm not sure about emotional neglect being covered by insurance but have you thought about notifying Children and Youth about it? It doesn't cost anything. They have to investigate the situation if a claim is made (from my understanding). Just understand that they will speak with the child if he is in school to find out more information. Do you also keep a journal of the child's condition when he comes over? (for instance: were his clothes clean, had he bathed, etc.) The journal may come in handy in court. Good luck and hang in there. You may not get the result you want right away but even if you and your husband can get more time it seems like that would be better for the child. Just remember with the courts its all about documentation.