Let's say you have $1000 on a credit card. The payment is $25 per month. If you look at a detailed bill you'll see the apply something like $20 of that to interest and $5 to the actual bill. So credit card companies are getting rich.
If you don't pay the account off every month if at all possible you will never ever ever ever pay the whole bill.
Many people apply a triangle/pyramid style idea to their bill paying.
They take a serious look at their debt. Write it all down on a chart of some sort so they can see it in black and white.
Find the bill that is the least and pay that bill off as soon as possible. Now that is according to that particular person's lifestyle and interests. I would not want to give up driving through McDonald's on my way to work for a dollar pop. I choose to do that because that same size pop at a convenience store is $1.51. So I'd budget in that one pop a day and not take that away so I could pay an extra $10 on a credit card. BUT I might give up buying a new release movie in Blue Ray and DVD and digital all in one box for $30 and renting the DVD instead for a buck.
If I had 4 credit cards that I could pay extra on and that payment would absolutely go towards the primary amount owed then I'd make an extra payment every month of what ever I could. Then not use that card at all.
Say one card had $10,000, another had $5,000, one had $4,000, then one only had $1000 I'd be making the minimum payments on the others and paying every extra penny I could on the $1000 to pay it off. Then take that extra money and put it on the next lowest card. This is one way.
Some companies have much lower interest rates that others. I've heard of people taking out a new card that has a super great rate and taking cash then paying off the higher rate card or getting a bank loan/credit union at work, to pay off the high interest cards. I never had that as an option but do think it could work only if a person changed their spending styles.
Here's what I saw in your post that concerns me. Buying kids clothes on credit cards....it doesn't matter how cheap they are. If you're putting them on a credit card that cute pair of shorts for only $3.95 at Walmart, in the end, costs about $15. Because you aren't counting in the interest, it not being paid off each month so it builds and builds and builds. I'd never buy kids clothing like this. Way too expensive.
Simply buying, with cash, a couple of items per month for each child will do much better. Do not use the card for any reason except an emergency.
If hubbies car breaks down he can use yours. If you don't have one then his is the only way he can get to work. If he can't get to work via train or bus or other mode that isn't embarrassing for him in sight of his co-workers then his car must be repaired. His co-workers image of him is important. They don't need to see him as any less than he is.
Dental bills...well, you should be able to get dental insurance through his work. IF it's too expensive I understand it's better to not get it if you have good teeth. If you have bad teeth then go get the dental insurance for a year and get all the work done you can. That way in the long run you'll pay less out of pocket without insurance.
I imagine it was under control and things were okay until the rental property thing happened. Now that's taken care of and sold, right? No more problems with excessive spending that has to happen right then? I understand emergencies. I probably would have sold the property as is if possible and got out from under it. So many people walk into a house, even that's been updated, and see stuff they don't like. Then the house doesn't sell for that, the price has to be lowered. Even though it was needed I am not sure I'd have spent much.
I love watching property brothers because they have such great ideas and can pull if off. They have enormous budgets though. They also listen to the person who's home they are doing.
My sister fixes her houses up before putting them on the market. BUT she fixes up how she'd like it. She took down her cow border and put up more border, it was a definite theme. I told her that most people thought border was only in really old houses and made it look dated. She actually said if the people looking at her house didn't like the wall colors and border they didn't have to buy it. I tried but she wasn't interested.
I was looking to move a couple of years ago and every house that I went in to had super ugly brownish beige paint. It was depressing and really really ugly. I didn't guy a house that had been upgraded because their tastes were not my tastes.
My sister took a cut on what she might have gotten for her house. It didn't sell for 3 months. If she had left it alone it probably would have sold for the same amount. In my opinion all the work and planning and money spent was wasted.
I think you must have had to repair stuff and spend that money. I do think it is in the past and you learned a huge lesson.
Now that you have that behind you it's time to plan on some new lifestyles.
Spend only cash. Do not use the card unless it is a true emergency. Running out of diapers and it being 2 days until pay day is NOT an emergency. It's poor planning. Go to Walmart on the first or in the middle of the month when you buy your household supplies and get what you need then buy an extra item you currently use.
If you want to learn how to store up items so you can always have the items you need and not run out of them then please go to your local library and check out Peggy Layton books on food storage and being prepared for an emergency.
After reading several of Peggy's books I realized I was doing food storage all wrong for my family. I had wheat and beans that we would never every use. No one in my family will touch beans so there wasn't any reason for me to buy more of them and I ended up giving a bunch away. The wheat went to
a couple of family friends and neighbors who have wheat mills use it regularly.
I keep a few boxes of bread mix in the pantry. Just in case I get the urge to make some in the bread machine. We are just not big bread eaters.
I also learned how to have diapers on hand, wipes, diaper rash ointments, enough toilet paper and other paper items. I learned how to buy stuff that MY family needed and how to not run out of any item I really need.
There are many ways to cut excessive spending. I can't do it all the time by any means. But we do NOT have credit cards. We got rid of them. We pay cash for everything now.
I have a friend who has always been a SAHM. She has 6 kids. They decided when they were young adults and just married going to college at BYU to try and buy everything outright. Of course there are things a person has to buy on credit, especially when starting out. This family started to grow and they bought the most affordable home they could when hubby got his engineer degree. He worked at that job for a couple of years. They took all the money they made on the house they sold and put it all down on the next house. They lived there for about 10 years. Same thing.
By this time if they bought a vehicle they paid cash from savings for it. They were staying true to their ideals about paying cash. This went on. When they moved to my town they paid over 50% down on the house they bought. It wasn't a fancy house or massive or anything. They bought a modest house and their house payments were under a couple hundred a month. When they had more kids and needed a larger place they looked at their finances. If they sold their house for $XXX,XXX that would give them about $200.000 to put down on the next house.
So they opted to build. The house they built only cost about $50 per square foot and they built a huge home with all the pretty items they'd never had before. They lived in this house for about 20 years. They had no house payment because they'd worked and paid cash for as much as they could.
They put all their kids through college at BYU and had a beautiful home and owed nothing. They hadn't bought a vehicle since college days for any member of their family where they hadn't paid the full amount in cash.
They made a decision and stuck to it. They didn't go hungry and they didn't use credit unless it was a planned thing for those few items that are so massively expensive that a regular person can't pay cash like homes and college.
You and hubby must be on the same page with this or you'll have nothing but heartbreak. If he wants to save money and you want to entertain and pay the whole thing then you're going to argue over money.
IF IF IF you want to entertain call a few friends and invite them to bring stuff and you pay for the meat. Only it's not "buy a ton of thick juicy steak time" It's buy a bunch of packages of hot dogs for the kids and some chicken for the grown ups.
You can still have friends over. Make it less formal. OR wait until next year when you're back at work and you have more excess money. Put any extra money you can on the lowest card you can, where they''ll apply extra payments to the principle then get at least one card paid off. Work towards this.
Go on interviews next spring and have a job lined up for the next school year. Even if you hate it you will basically be working so you can afford to entertain and have extra's.