Crazy Schedule

I understand exactly what you are going through....i myself work and i work the graveyard shift, and while that kids are school i sleep but most of the time i continue sleeping when my husband gets home from work at 5pm so i never get to spend much time with my kids either. I'm always exausted and never in the mood to do much but i do what i can when i can. On my days off we do special things together, and when they get home from school i help with homework and such.....as much time as you can fit in is best....if they understand then perhaps the actually do. i hope that helped...i just got in from work and im barely awake so sorry if i dont make much sense..if you have any questions please feel free to ask...:)

Try not to feel guilty because if you must work then it can't be helped. You should try spending quality time with each child (one on one) even if it's only ten minute each. Try to think about how much the girls are going to feel close to their father. Write the girls lttle note when your not going to be home for a while. Put them on the bathroom mirror, lunch boxes, their plates, in their shoes and don't forget to tell your husband how much he means to you also. Don;t feel guilty becasue you know they are loved by there father and are in good hands. That is what helps me when I go on a much needed vacation without the children. We leave them with my mom and my mil. I just know that they are not missing me that much becasue they are okay without me. Hope it helps.
L.

That is not too bad. Usually me and my husband have to make sure our schedules alternate so that one of us is able to pick up and take my son to where ever he needs to be. When it does not work, we have to have different family members fill in for us. My son spends so much time with us AND others in the family, sometimes I am surprised he knows which way is up. I just count myself luck that I have so much family here willing to help out when we need it! My son seems to understand, but I am just happy I get to put him in bed most nights. I do feel bad that soetimes that is all I get to do with him, but he knows I love him!

Hi A.!
Congrats on your wonderful family and your new job! It is crazy how tired you can get with something that you think is so easy.......it's just that your body is not quite adjusted yet! This may sound crazy, but if you start an exercise regimen, you will actually have more energy!!! I'm not kidding! 30 min. brisk walk or jog, or exercise video........will make a HUGE difference!!! Also, I have just discovered a company called Advocare that makes vegetable suppliments and vitamins, and an ENERGY drink called Spark. (The kicker is that this is a heath company and so there is nothing harmful in the drink........) I think if you look into these things, it will make a world of difference for you! : )
Take care,
T. : )

I too have a wonderful husband who's home with the kids while I work. I have been working evenings for the last 5 yrs. I do feel like I don't see my kids at all sometimes & that bothers me alot. I would suggest just spending as much time as you can with them. Is there a way to just work Monday through Friday & then the weekends could be all about family? I try to 'steal' time when I can but it is hard. If you need someone to chat with, I will listen! I can't help muc with the guilt cuz I know where you're coming from....it's hard. We all just muddle through the best we can & don't be so hard on yourself.

Working all of the time is no fun. But you do what you have to to pay bills and keep food on the table. Have you tried asking for a different schedule? They may not go for it, but it's worth a try. As for the standing issue, I worked at Subway for about 6 years, and a game store for a year, all I did was stand. It's ruff at first, but it does get better. After a month or so you won't be as tired. Hang in there. Have you considered that you may be a bit depressed? Wanting to sleep all of the time is a sign. Deppression runs in my family, and I am on Zoloft. When I get depressed, all I want to do is sleep, watch tv, and do nothing. I'm very negative at times, but with the medication I am much better! So much so I don't have to take it anymore. It has fixed my chemical imbalnce, and now I am able to enjoy my family. Talk to your doctor, and see if you may need a little bit of help. I hope this helps.

I work nights as well, granted it's only 2 hours a night but I go after the boys are asleep, I do feel guilty even though I know they are asleep, I am their mom, what if they wake up from a bad dream or something. Hubby is home with them and I know he can take care of anything that happens but as mom we still feel it's OUR duty :D we have only one vehicle as well which is the reason for working nights, you did the right thing with talking to your girls about it, they will feel very important to know you encluded them in this. But truly if they were having a problem with it I believe they would come to you, make sure you let them know if they are uncomfortable with it to let you know :D good luck.

Hey A.,

Have you ever thought about being home with your girls full time AND be able to make income to help supprt the family? I am able to do that and I have a blast, I make my own schedule and I can do it all from my home. If you want some info about being able to work form home and have your own business, take a look at my website. I would be happy to coach you through the process.

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You can call or email me directly, my contact info is at my website. I look forward to getting to know you very soon.

Blessings to you A.!
Warmly,
M. L.

A., the only other solution is to try to create your own job and work from home so you can be with your girls, too or your husband may be able to find a higher paying job so you wouldn't have to work. I believe prayer helps solve alot of problems. God bless you.

Over my kids lives I have worked different jobs with different hours. For a short while I worked 2 jobs then my son hit the babysitter so I stopped one of them. He had never been a violent child and at that time my husband was in the military so he was not around much either. I know work 12 hour night shift they are 13 and 12 know. And I Still Feel Guilty. I don't think there is anything you can do about that specially if you have to work. That is just part of being a mom. When I work weekend they know to leave me alone and let me sleep. But on my weekends off we always try and do something together. My daughter is in girl scouts and with her troop her meetings are on my weekend off which works out real good and it is a awesome way to spend time with her. Every once in a while when I have a little extra money we will have a mommy and one child day out. go out and eat lunch and do what they want to do. That way you can talk and have that special one on one with them catch up on what is going on in there life. That helps a lot with them and me. Good Luck.