my son gets into a lot of things around the house, no matter how baby proof it is. its inevitable, i understand that. but when i pull him out of the refridgerator when i have it open to get something out, he starts thrashing around, kicking and screaming. and is only year old. he doesn't walk yet, but he kicks as if he is a professional soccer player. he is horrible when it comes to not having his way. i'm scared to think that i had something to do with the way he is behaving now, but i can't dwell on the past. how do i deal and discipline him now for the bad behavior he is using? its really hard because my husband works all night, and then sleeps most of the day until he has to start getting ready to go to work again. so i normally don't ask him for help. i'm really needing some advice and i will take anyones opinions into consideration. i greatly appreciate it.
I myself am a mom whose husband works nights and sleeps days! We live really near each other, where does your hubby work? LOL I have a son who is 4 and a daughter who is 11. They both act the same way.
I don't know how you were raised, but I myself feel that has nothing to do with it! I finally learned how to somewhat handle it.
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Hi E.,
I just came home from seeing my grandkids ages 15 months and 3 years. I had not seen them in about a year. The youngest I found out usually had a tantrum when he was hungry or thirsty. Since he doesn't talk yet, that is the only way he can get his point across. So try giving him something to snack on before you go into the refridgerator...
With the 3 year old, well he doesn't like to share his toys, and as a result one whines, and the other cries. So, I told him that when he has a car or something, he should go to the toy closet and get his brother something to play with. This solved that problem.
My daughter who is 23 has also discovered that if she rolls the back windows down when they are crying and whining in the car, that the air makes them hush for a while...if they start up again, down go the windows! Hope these hints help you...
Blessings,
C.
E. R,
I believe all these "bad behaviors" are simply a new stage of learning and exploring for Anthony. Keep in mind how facinating a refrigerator can be! Perhaps you can satisfy his curiosity by picking him up and pointing out the wonderful things in there, "OOoh, now Mommy's getting out the milk! Do you see the salsa anywhere? How many APPLES can we count... 1, 2, 3..." Not only will you be satisfying his curiosity, but you will also be developing his vocabulary. When ever he acts up, think about WHY he's doing it, or what he's frustrated about, and use it as a developmental opportunity. I also highly recommend the book, "What to Expect the Toddler Years". I have read mine ragged, but it has saved my sanity!
Something else to consider: For the truly dangerous places (in our case older brother's room with chokable toys), consider putting up a baby gate. He'll learn it's off-limits, and should eventually give up persuing it.
E. G.
He's curious! As someone else said, keep talking, help him see what you're doing. If you need him to completely leave something alone, you have to find something that's more interesting than the fridge. You say "No, you can't play in the fridge, but let's go find your truck!" Walk him over to his truck, set him down, help him start playing with it.
E.-My daughter did and still does the same thing, she's 1 1/2. Don't worry about it being something you did, it's more because he can't use his words yet-he's frustrated. Just try to redirect him-try. It will get better. My daughter is starting to be able to communicate more and gets less frustrated. I also have a 3 1/2 yr old son who went through the same thing but not as severe as my daughter.
Good luck and get your husband to help at least a little. Your job is 24 hrs a day and you never get a break-he needs to help too.
C.
