B.L.
Oh sweetie,
im so sorry to hear this. Terribly sorry. :0(
I am pretty sure that your father in law is just worried about your precious son, and his 'answer' is to skip out on the surgery. People react to such news in different ways. And of course these ways aren't always good ways. I know this first hand as we have been through some very traumatic things the past 2 years.
In 2007 we had a baby girl born that had the same thing, along with other medical problems. We were facing many surgeries for her head in the future - unfortunately we didn't even get to make it that far with her. I am NOT saying this to scare you at all. She passed away from things COMPLETLEY UNRELATED to the carniosynotosis. So please don't add extra pressure and stress to yourself from our 'story'.
From what we learned while we began talking about such surgeries is that these dr's are AMAZING! They can perform such surgeries on these little ones with GREAT sucess.
My heart does go out to you because I know how stressful this can be. We have had four babies - our first was born 8 weeks early, our second was born 6 weeks early and had a genetic disorder - which is why she passed away - nothing to do with the craniost. I promise!! - our third was born with a congenital heart defect called svt and is looking at having surgery on her heart when she is around 3 yrs old and our 4th was our first full term, healthy baby - though is now deaing with severe reflux. So unfortunately I know how it feels to be completely overridden with stress when it comes to babies.
I would be open to you emailing me if you need a shouder to cry on or someone who will just listen. Send me a PM if you feel like talking...
Hugs to you tonight...
God bless
Kelly