My daughter is 14 weeks tomorrow. 2 weeks ago we heard a good heartbeat and she is not spotting. But she keeps saying she's cramping. I've tried to get her to explain how it feels and she swears it feels like period cramping. I've explained the sensation of the pulling that happens in the sides of the uterus from the growing and stretching. She says it's not like that.
At what point should we be worried without spotting? She's working tonight and she is a server so she does carry trays and food and such. I wish this were over!
S.
Thanks everyone. Well my daughter won't really tell me when she's worried. She always pretends everything is ok. It's hard for her to admit if she is over doing it or if she is scared. Yesterday she looked like she was about to cry. She is fair skinned and when she is ready cry her face gets all red.
I am worried because I had 2 late miscarriages and one early miscarriage. I know how rare it is at this stage but I did it in my 13th week twice. So at this point my concern is a lot more for her than even the baby. As disappointed as I would be if anything happened to the baby, I am a LOT more concerned about how she would feel and how it would be on her because I nearly bled to death with mine.
But it's true. I worry too much and I know it's a sin!
S.
I have heard that you can develop cramps like that if you don't drink enough water. That it can actually cause contactions. Have her start drinking more water.
Suzi,
I think you are going to worry yourself sick. I think you may have considering your last post!!!
Cramping is normal, as this is what I have been told throughout 2 pregnancies. I had it in the beginning and the end. Her body is going to go through so many things she has never experienced. So if the cramping is extreme, I would seek help. If its not, a quick call to the doc, they will probably tell you its ok. Some doctors will give you an ultrasound to be on the safe side.
I am sure your daughters doctor is aware of her activities, if they thought her job was going to risk her baby's health, they would probably tell her that. I measured houses in a mudslide when I was 8 months pregnant.
I dont know if this will ease your mind, but after the 12 week mark, chances of miscarriage decrease dramatically.
Also, I am a tab of a worrier myself, and for your daughters sake you are going to have to be the strong one. If I didnt have my mom telling me it would be ok when I worried about EVERYTHING, I would have been an even bigger basket case. And just to let you know, one day when I was 5 months pregnant, I woke up and rushed my butt into the doctors office because I thought my stomach looked smaller that day. Can you say unstable???? Be strong for her, her hormones are nuts right now!
Peace of mind, i would call her doctor and just explain what is going on with her the type of cramping she is having and see what they tell you. They could probably get her to explain exactly what she is feeling. She could be experiencing gas also.
Hope all is well
good luck
I would definately call the doctor, just to be safe. I am pregnant with my 5th and had some pretty strong cramps (they felt like period cramps), my doctor told me that sometimes the more pregnancies the more crampy you feel, and sometimes women just feel cramps..depends on how their bodies react to pregnancy.
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Suzi I would have her get checked by her OB. It could be anything, from uterus stretching, carrying to heavy food trays, baby adjusting etc. It's better to find out if there is a problem then worrying about it.
Hopefully her employer knows she is preggers and can lighten her load some. Have other servers help carry those HUGE trays. Will keep her in my prayers that all is normal and just growing pains.
K. (very tired) Nana of 5
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Suzi-
I had the same problem in the early weeks of my pregnancy. Is your daughter young? I was 16 when I had my baby and I had sever cramps for what seemed like months. My mom was just as worried, because they got so bad that all I could do is curl up in a ball and cry. The best advise I would have for you and her is first to go to the doctor to ensure that she is not pregnant with a tubal baby. That is one of the first signs. Warm/hot baths help ease some of the pain. I also had to rethink some of the things and the quantity of what I was eating. I seemed to have thought that because I was pregnant I had to eat everything in the house and constantly have food in my hand. I can assure you and her that they do not last forever.
Have you ever heard of Braxton Hicks? This is most likely what she is experiencing. My mother had them with all of her pregnancies except the first one. With the last one, that is how she found out she was pregnant. She was sitting in church and had a contraction when she wasn't even 4 weeks along. Big suprise! They are very common and nothing to worry about. As long as they are not regular, no need to worry. It is just her bodies way of dealing with the pregnancy and preparing for the baby to come even though it won't be for a long time. My last doctor gave me some great advice. If you have more then six contractions in an hour, go lay down and drink some water. If you have six more in the 2nd hour, call the doc and go to the hospital. The last week of my pregnancy with that one I was timing contractions every night but they always slowed back down before that 2 hour mark. Dehydration does cause contractions so tell her to make sure she is drinking her water. As the mother of the mom, RELAX!!! She will be ok.
I have 6 kids and experienced this with at least 4 of the pregnancies. My doctor never explained it but never seemed worried either. It went away after not too long and then would come back right at the end. I never did find out what it was but I ended up with 6 very healthy babies!
Suzi...have her call her obgyn...its never over reacting to talk to your doctor or nurse practitioner if you have worries, better to set both your minds at ease!
Your daughter is in my prayers,
B.
She should talk with her doc. However, I will say that some cramping and even spotting is normal. As long as the cramping isn't severe and persistent then she should be fine. Also, if she spots, as long as she isn't filling a pad in an hour or less and the spotting isn't accompanied with strong cramps, then she should be fine (though she should definitely still call the doc!).
I'm almost 23 weeks and I've been crampy off and on through the entire pregnancy. With our daughter I spotted off and on throughout the entire pregnancy, and everything was just fine, she's a healthy 2 year old now!
The cramping could be caused by dehydration or pushing herself too hard. Since she's on her feet all the time as a server, she might need to try taking it easy and making sure she's drinking at least 64 oz of water a day.
I think she should check with her doctor about the cramping, but probably it's not a concern since there was a good heartbeat a couple weeks ago and there is no spotting.
Is she taking enough liquids? I was getting some mild cramps and my doctor advised to be hydrated all the time and it helped. I hope all is well with her.
well I had mild cramps during periods so when I started having strong cramps without a period that lasted for several weeks I went to the doctor. That is how I found out I was pregnant. through out my pregnancy I had cramps everytime my daughter grew. But whenever i was stressed out which was most of the first and second trimester I would get enough cramps I would throw up.
But I did talk to my doctor just to ease my worries. although I think my boyfriend and family worried more.
At about 7 weeks with my second pregnancy I had cramps so bad I thought I was losing the baby! I went in and found out I had a uteran cyst. I had probably had it for awhile and normally it would have gone away on its own with my period, but of course, I hadn't had one. The cramping was from the growing baby pressing on the cyst and my body reacting to it. It was nothing to worry about. However, we all know that everyone and every pregnancy is different. So, I would have her call her OB and they will decide if she needs to be evaluated - I would also say with pregnancy it is always better to be safe than sorry.
