Could This X-mas Gift Be Insulting???

I would not find it offending at all. I would try to get her to say she wants one or hint around about one and see how she reacts.
That is great that you went to all the trouble to find out what she really wants.

I wouldn't find it offending in the least if it's something I wanted. We are women...there aren't too many of us that don't need any help in the facial hair department. Congratulations to the ones that have perfect eyebrows and no traces of a mustache. I say if she mentioned to her husband then go for it.

You could give it to her and let her know that her husband suggested it. Or....you could just give her a giftcard and she could go out and buy it herself. But.....I don't think she'll be insulted. :)

I would tred lightly on this one; just the fact you are asking if it would be insulting might be your gut telling you not to do it. What we tell our husbands we want and what we want the entire family world to know are two different things; kind of like telling your husband you are going to work on losing that weight and the person who draws your name buys you a case of slim-fast. Maybe you didn't want the whole family to know! I don't know - just my thoughts. When in doubt, don't. Sounds more like a vaccum cleaner type gift than something sweet and personal (though truly personal, maybe too much so) like a manicure kit; or better a gift certificate for a manicure!!

I think you should go with your gut. I wouldn't get her that particular item since it is an intimate sort of thing. You're taking a chance that she may be insulted.

Just my thoughts,

MC

Since it is something she wanted, I don't think she would be insulted. I think it is a great gift. If she says something, just say you talked to your brother and he had mentioned her wanting that.

Good luck and Merry Christmas!!

No way! I would totally give it to her. If it is something that she wants she won't take it wrong at all. If you still feel funny I would just say "With a little help of your husband..."

I would say it's a great gift. Most women wax. And it will save her money from going to the salon to wax. She will not be offended.

It could definitely go the wrong way, depending on someone's personality. So I'd start hinting around with her to see what she's wanting. That or you might want to take it back and get a gift card for that store so she can get it if she wants it... Or maybe a cute note with the gift receipt saying her husband said she really wanted it and you won't have hurt feelings if she takes it back... :)

Guys sometimes don't have a clue what their wives want, so I'd be cautious. ;)

I would tape a note/card to the box explaining that you had talked to your brother and he said that it was something that you wanted, and your not implying that she has to much facial hair (or something tactful but along those lines). It is an unusual gift, and could be insulting if not wanted. However, because you know she really wants it, I think it is a safe gift to give.

It totally depends on her personality. She might be embarassed because she mentioned it to her husband only. However, I have a friend who got one and she LOVES it. She uses it to smooth her skin on her hands and feet. When she opens it tell her you heard it does wonders for softening your hands and feet. It's true and it won't cause the same type of embarassment.

if she's opening it privately, great... If not... not so great. Maybe find out how much it costs and go to that store and get her a gift certificate. Your brother can then privately (or you) tell her your thoughts on what she could get...

Plenty of people wax all areas of their bodies now so it doesn't imply she has too much facial hair. It is a way of pampering yourself. You could always just say to her as you give it to her that your brotehr thought she would like one. If you guys are close then I don't think it will offend her. By telling her your brother gave you the idea she'll blame him anyway if she's upset by it haha.

If she was going to buy it anyhow, you just saved her money, and you know it is something she wanted, so I would say that it has got to be a good gift. Go for it.

I don't think it's an appropriate Christmas gift, regardless of whether she wants one or not. She'll buy her own. It's like needing a new vacuum cleaner -- you certainly don't want one as a PRESENT! A waxer?? even worse. Good luck --

I think it is fine. If its something you know she's been wanting, then no big deal. I would give it to her. In the opposite shoes, I would be happy to receive it and not think twice about whether it was an insult or not.

HI Nancy,
If this is something that she wants, she should be thrilled to have this gift. I say go for it!
Merry Christmas,
M.

I don't think she would be insulted by that gift. Especially if she is doing this at home already. I would
maybe if your budget allows. Add a couple candles, lotions from the Bath & Body Works store, or some small gift cards to Starbucks, etc. They don't have to be large $ amount gift cards.

I would have a card on the TOP of the gift with "open first" on it.... Then write something like...
With all the blessings we have been given I wondered what you needed. A little bird whispered in my ear and told me that you were thinking of this...

One suggestion: save the gift for a time that she can open it privately, like her brthday, instead of a time when everyone will be opening their gifts together.

I don't think it would be insulting if it's something she wants. A friend got me the same gift a few years ago because she knew I wanted it and I was happy to receive it and not insulted at all. And besides, when someone gives you a gift, shouldn't you be happy to receive it no matter what it is anyway (e.g. the ugly sweater your aunt buys you every year for Christmas, lol)? I think for her to assume you were trying to insult her would be more insulting to you as the gift giver! Good luck and Merry Christmas!

OK let's just think here a man told you what to get her...of course it is practical they buy us Vaccums and power tools....and wonder why that is not a great gift!!!! How about a gift card and a picture of the item w/ a note that says "Joe thought you would love this so here is the one I thought would be perfect I couldn't buy it for you becasue I think you are perfect like you are!!!" The she has the card to buy and and you can both laugh about it after everything is opened. I am hugely practical but if someone bought me that I would be offended and Bless her husband who sincerly is trying to offer an honest suggestion of something she really wants.

Nacny,
I wouldn't think that it would be if she has been wanting one. You said that you are pretty close, so I would not worry about it.

I would love that gift from my sister in law! Just casually say (as she's opening it)..."I heard you wanted this!!".

Have a great Christmas.

J.

I definitely do not think it is an insult. You asked her husband and he gave you an idea. There's nothing worse than getting a gift you don't want or need. This one is practical and obviously on her list (since I doubt a man would come up with the idea on his own). It's not like you're saying, "Hey, wax that moustache already." Most woman wax their eyebrows & legs. It seems very practical, and I like practical.

I say it depends on a couple of things. Are you close enough to discuss intimate things with her? Would she buy such an item with you in the store with her? Also, would she be embarrassed to open such a gift in the setting in which it will be presented? In my family, we do Christmas at my moms, in PJ's and no gift would be too intimate. ...so I guess the answer lies in those questions. Good luck on your gift!

~L.

I think it will be fine. It is what she wants, and you can always blame your brother for the suggestion (haha)...

Hi Nancy,

Half the female populous waxes something or another (most of us our eyebrows), and if it's something she wants, give it to her! It's not offensive in the least! Do you know how much money it will save her to be able to do her own waxing? LOL I say go for it.

Happy Holidays!
L.

If it's something she's doing already she'd probably really like the gift. However, you know her personality.. if she is one that is sensitive and self-conscious then maybe it wouldn't be such a good gift... I would think that might be the determining factor.