M.J.
Actually there was just an article in the Chicago Tribune stating that some of the Chicago Public Schools paddled children. It was an investigative report and I only read the first page and then got distracted.
None of the schools do it, that's why it was on the front page. Big no-no out here.
Have you found out how to get help for your 4 year old? I know each state is different for special services, so I thought I would ask. At 4 years old, the school district can do an evaluation and see what services he qualifies for. If you need any private therapy, you might be able to get suggestions here. You can send me a message if you want to as I went through the same thing.