Constant Whining

L.,
I have an almost 3 year-old who does the same thing. What I do with her is tell her in a firm voice that I will not listen to someone who is whining. If she wants something, she must use a big girl voice. Also, when I've said no to her for something and she continues to whine and ask for it, I tell her I've already answered her question, and I'm not going to answer it again.
I've found that when she gets into a whining loop (can't seem to stop), that I go to my "happy place" and become a robot! I get done what needs to be done and when finished with her, I remove myself or her from the situation. I tell her that when she is ready to talk to me like a big girl, then she can join me.
Hope this helps. It sounds like you have a lot on your plate. Do you have family or good friends around to help? It sounds like you need some time to yourself.

S.

well L. can tell you know that you are way to busy with work, school and starting a business. Your daughter needs you to be there. Maybe you can go to school part time or quit one of your jobs. Your daughter is craving attention from you and the only way that she can tell you is by whining. Take some time for her. Struggle, give up extras to quit something because these are the most important years of her life and she needs YOU to be around. Good luck.

State whatever your point was once or twice, then tell her to go to her room or a time out spot and get it all out of her system if she whines. That way you don't have to feel you're stifleing her emotionally. And she won't do it to get a rise out of you. Worked for mine anyways.

I have 4 daughters and one more on the way. I am a stay at home mom. I have been through the "whiny" phase. Whatever it is that they are ehining to get...don't give it to them. If they are whining just trying to talk to you and tell you something...usually tattling on someone...let her know that until she stops whining, you aren't listening. I had to train my daughters. I would say..."What does whining get you?" And in unison, they say "Nothing." Thats what you teach her...over and over...WHINING GETS YOU NOTHING FROM ME. I refuse to respond to a whiny child. This may take some time for her to actually figure out that you are serious, but if you are consistant and don't ever give into it...it WILL work. Good luck!

A. R.

my son is 6 and still whinns at every thing i could use the same advice as you lol