Compliments

Just say thank you. Nothing else and smile. One day you'll realize you are worthy of being compimented.

It depends on what was said and who it came from.

If my husband hasn't seen me all day, walks in the door and goes 'wow, you look great!'... I swear I blush (I'm usually in jeans and a tshirt, dirty hair in a ponytail, no makeup, LOL!)

But if my husband says 'thanks for dinner, that was great!', yeah, well, he'll eat dog food if he's hungry enough, you know? (And I'm serious, he'll eat dog food.)

You consider the source, I guess.

I bumped into this guy I went to high school with a few months ago when I was out with my husband, hadn't seen him in years. He got... pretty unhealthy. So when he says 'Wow, you look great, you're still so skinny!!'... I mean, what do you say? It's not like you can return the compliment, you know? THAT makes me uncomfortable.

I love writing for fun. I always read over what I've written and think 'man, this sucks, what a bunch of garbage!'... but when other people read it, they want me to keep going, to finish it, they love it!!... so, like you and your painting, I can relate with my writing.

Just appreciate that they appreciate it :)

Vincent VanGoghs' brother was ga-ga over Vincents paintings. Only to find out that he was ga-ga to keep his brothers feelings from being hurt. He faked like he had sold some of his paintings and even gave Vincent the money from the sale. Vincent actually never knew how awesome he was. After Vincents death and his brothers death, so many of Vincents paintings were found in his brothers attic that had been there for along time from the fake sales. But look what happened....I'd bet his painting are all just about priceless now. So beauty "is" in the eye of the beholder. Keep on truckin'!

I am horrible about accepting compliments. I used to do (and still do sometimes, just less often) as one of the previous posters said & say something negative about myself, as if I wasn't worthy of a compliment or something. Or I would feel the need to justify the compliment. Thanks to some positive "feelings" cds I have learned to say thanks & leave it, but sometimes it still leaves me feeling awkward afterwards. I decorate cakes & I can nitpick them a part, while others are in awe. This is very much a worthy post as I think there are many women in the same boat :)

totally get your comments about your paintings....still feel that way about mine. I soooo want them off the walls where they're hung!

I think most of us are highly self-critical when it comes to situations such as this. Are you a Virgo? :) I live in a family of Virgos & we're death to ourselves!

I never think my paintings are good enough...I think a lot of us feel that way from time to time.

My daughter does what I use to do.
I don't know why we do/did.
When we got a complement we answer by putting our self down, and point at the bad.
Normally this end up bad, because either the person say "yeah, you are right" and then we get all sad, lol, OR it start sounding that we are fishing for complements, which is not the case.
Is like I felt guitly, no sure how to explain.
Once I read, I don't remember where, to just say "thank you".
I have use that advice since then, I smile and I say "thank you" sometimes accompanied with a compliment back if I truly mean it, other ways, just smile and I say "Thank you".
My daughter still sometimes keeps doing what I use to, and I truly believe she has a gift and she works hard for it.
I think it takes some times to just accept that we do something good and is nothing wrong with it and we can just say "thank you".

Awww...bless your heart. I probably think too much, but I focus on what the compliment actually says to me. If I am complimented on a meal, I say, "Thanks for letting me know that you enjoyed it. That was very important to me." If someone likes my shoes, I say, "Thanks for noticing. I really like blah-blah about these shoes, and I appreciate that you noticed." Something like that. I don't like to give the seemingly empty obligatory "thank you" because it just feels so disingenuous. I feel better about it if I can let them know that I really hear them.

My son who is a very talented artist (confirmed by others, not just his mom!) Feels the same way about his work. I think you are too close to it to see it as someone else does. Just try to enjoy the positive feedback.
I dabble in artwork and am not sure about myself. Without the positive feedback, I would probably have quit.