Collaborative Divorce

Hi R.,

I don't know much about divorces or how they all work. I would suggest that you try, try, try to work it out. Divorce is so hard on everyone. Marriages are not easy but that is what makes them better is being able to really push past the hard times. It brings a bond that can not be broken. I would just encourage you to stand fast and pray for your marriage and your spouse. We will pray for you also!

Blessings,
T.

have never heard of it but you need to be careful cause you have children and you have had trouble with him off and on you can sometimes get help through legal aid some states you can do your own divorce but they don't like you to do it with children or property good luck

I work for an attorney who has created a website for online divorces. You may check it out at familylegalpro.com to see what you will need to do. I believe it covers every state in the US. It doesn't cost anything to check out the website. I hope you find this helpful. Good luck to you.

R., ss for your pain and emotional upheavel. 1 - is he going to fight you for anything (full custody, possesions, empty out the bank accounts)? I was divorced in April 2008 and my lawyer did a flat rate of 1500, and mine was a battle for everything, she also let me pay it out. 2 If the divorce is a mutual thing, you can buy the kit I think at Office Depot, and yall divide what you agree on, sign, and take it to the court house and pay a filing fee. Check your newspaper classifieds b/c lawyers offer quickie divorces at like $500.

My son was 3 by April, so the separation has been hard on him, not to mention my ex is telling my son things that are not true, we moved in with my mom, and my ex told my son that this was not his home. I was with my ex for 7 years. If you want an email pal feel free to email me at ____@____.com

You actually only go to court once, to present papers to the courts. Everything is handled between the two lawyers for what each of you want. Are there children involved? I do not know if you would be allowed to go back at some point and ask for more child support with this type of divorce. After 18 years, I would hire a good attorney, and settle everything in court, including community property settlements. You really need to do some research on this. I am not very familiar with this type of divorce.

Regina,
I feel your pain. I filed a year ago and am still not divorced. I have paid way too much money to still be where I am. However, my spouse is not cooperating with this process. I too have 3 children and went for the expensive attorney because I was worried about my kids..
I can tell you that if you and your husband are willing to work through things, there is no need to pay all of that money. I find that these expensive lawyers are in business to keep you fighting and therefore, make more money for themselves. However, this is not to say that you do not need an attorney - I believe that you do - to make sure that you are protected. don't hire one to fight for you if there is nothing to fight about - hire one to look over and write up professionally your divorce agreement. This attorney should be a good one - but it is my experience that mediation is better and a good family law attorney to prepare your documents is key.

I made a tragic mistake that cost us both 10's of thousands of dollars. If you are even close to agreeing to your outcome - call some folks and ask what it would cost to write up your papers and look over them. You need your own attorney - don't share one. But I don't think it should have to cost $20K (and an additional $20K for hubby)! as I have paid - with still no outcome!