Dear mom, this may not be what you want to hear, but it's not surprising your baby calms down when he"s latched on. That is your answer, not formula bottle feeding or the binky. The binky is derived out of a baby's need to suck, some more than others, mom's breasts. How can you blame a baby who prefers the soft and warm skin to a rubber or silicon nipple? Yes, it is hard to care for a demanding baby, being the first or the third, and I feel for your 1 year old who is probably having the hardest time, but you may want to try to ask for help when it comes to taking care of the dogs or house. You can't do it all or shouldn't. Your new baby is #1 priority and a crying baby is not a happy baby. Do try wearing your baby in a sling or other form of baby carrier, but position your baby near your breast, meaning carry your baby skin to skin with easy access to your breast so that you are able to do some work without having to stop and nurse him. Unless you have ver large breasts, you should be able to nurse him in a bay carrier hands-free. If you need to be shown how, do a search online for nursing and your sling name and you will get several youtube videos showing how. It may take a bit of practice, but once you get the hang of it, you and your baby will love it. Some babies need mom's touch more than others, some babies have a higher need to pacify themselves and the great advantage of letting them latch on as opposed to forcing them to use a binky is the fact that they can nurse if they want to or they can just pacify themselves. Also, a breastfed baby is less likely to take in air than a bottlefed baby and colick may have to do with air intake. I wish you good luck mom and hope you have a supportive husband who will help you. Kuddos to you for breastfeeing your baby. A happy baby is a happy mom and a happy mom is a happy family.
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Dear mom, this may not be what you want to hear, but it's not surprising your baby calms down when he"s latched on. That is your answer, not formula bottle feeding or the binky. The binky is derived out of a baby's need to suck, some more than others, mom's breasts. How can you blame a baby who prefers the soft and warm skin to a rubber or silicon nipple? Yes, it is hard to care for a demanding baby, being the first or the third, and I feel for your 1 year old who is probably having the hardest time, but you may want to try to ask for help when it comes to taking care of the dogs or house. You can't do it all or shouldn't. Your new baby is #1 priority and a crying baby is not a happy baby. Do try wearing your baby in a sling or other form of baby carrier, but position your baby near your breast, meaning carry your baby skin to skin with easy access to your breast so that you are able to do some work without having to stop and nurse him. Unless you have ver large breasts, you should be able to nurse him in a bay carrier hands-free. If you need to be shown how, do a search online for nursing and your sling name and you will get several youtube videos showing how. It may take a bit of practice, but once you get the hang of it, you and your baby will love it. Some babies need mom's touch more than others, some babies have a higher need to pacify themselves and the great advantage of letting them latch on as opposed to forcing them to use a binky is the fact that they can nurse if they want to or they can just pacify themselves. Also, a breastfed baby is less likely to take in air than a bottlefed baby and colick may have to do with air intake. I wish you good luck mom and hope you have a supportive husband who will help you. Kuddos to you for breastfeeing your baby. A happy baby is a happy mom and a happy mom is a happy family.