My 31 month old daughter just started part-time preschool about a month ago. She was almost fully potty trained before this and now she is having accidents all the time. She has to wear pull-ups at school until she is adjusted and then they said she could start wearing underwear. I know she might be regressing a little but I feel like it is a lot. She wants to wear pull-ups more at home. Today she had an accident in her underwear but thought she had went to the bathroom in her pull-up. Im wondering if anyone has went through this. I am switching her to cloth at nap and nighttime. Im wondering if anyone has used cloth trainers/pullups? How do they work and are they worth investing in?
Does, or would, the daycare allow you to put underwear on OVER the pullups. That way you daughter is ALWAYS in undies, just with an extra protection during "school" hours. Sounds like it may be a mindset thing for your daughter, so her knowing she's wearing undies all the time (with or without pullups under) may be enough motivation for her to stay dry.
I think that going back and forth from a diaper (pull-ups are just an expensive diaper) to underwear is confusing, and she will have accidents/regression because of it. If she can pee in the pull up and not feel it, then why not just pee in the undies too, KWIM?
I would let the daycare know that she needs to be in undies full time, adn they need to work with her as well.
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I agree with Beth H. take her out of pre-school for a few months and let her mature some. Not even 3 seems young to be in pre-school...
Renee
WI
Hi B.,
Yes i went through this with my son after he had been in hospital for two surgeries. he trained himself fully by 8 months. i had potty chair in bathroom and he would follow me, so i would put him on it, and bingo....after hospital stay, nurses were busy and unable to handle him when it came to going potty and put him in diapers.rrrrr not a happy camper, nor would they get his corrective shoe and bar right. my son new how to dial home at 8 months, and could also count etc. but fo ryour problems, get her some decorative panties with her favoite thing, Barbie, Dora, flowers, mickey mouse etc., when she goes 2 days w/o accident, let her ware one of her grown up panties, and let her know she doesn't want to dirty these for for design will have yellow or brown spots on them and they won't be as pretty...within a couple of weeks she should be doing okay. also it could be the school does not allow children to go potty anytime, but has set times (which i think is WRONG) we are not on someone else time clock for bathroom breaks, and let the teacher know this also. if she wants to go, let her go, only she knows when she has to go. merridee
Pull-ups are just stupid, they're a waste of money and are so absorbant and comfortable you might as well just use plain diapers and save some money. They're nothing but a marketing ploy to trick you into potty training is easy or your kids will be trained like magic.
My daughter is 6 and potty training was the hardest and most challenging and frustrating thing I've ever done as a parent so far. I've also potty trained 3 boys at daycare too. I trained 4 kids and never want to do it again.
If she's potty trained or should be and has been you should only be using underpants or the thick cotton training underpants. Don't play around with pullups it's confusing and teaching your child it's ok to use a pull up or go in her pants. It's just sending a confusing message.
The only time I think pullups or diapers are appropriate is at bedtime(not naptime) when you have a newly potty trained kid who may have a accident or a child that has uncontrolable bedtime accidents. If their having accidents at naptime they're not physically ready to be potty trained.
With preschool if it's not daycare and an actual preschool I'd pull her out til she's potty trained a bit older prehaps, she's obviously not mature enough for it yet. Most "preschools" start at age3 and fully potty trained. It won't hurt to pull her out for a few months and try again later.
If she has a accident let her be fully responsible for it. You can help but she should beable to change clothing and cleanup. Teach her responsibility and that their are actions and consequences for everything we do in life. It won't be fun so she won't want to have a accident. It's just like many other things in life if you spill your milk at dinner, you need to clean it up ..yes it's a accident and not a big deal but that's the consequence for spilling.
What finally worked for me was telling my daughter she needed to be trained to attend preschool that coming fall, if she wasn't trained there would be NO preschool. She also got competative with the boys at daycare and they would fight over who got use the potty first and push and shove. I also stopped using pullups and did underpants if she had a accident I didn't rush to clean her up I let her be uncomfortable for a minute and come get me. Then I let her take responsibility and do the cleanup I helped but it was her job. She did it and was trained by like 30mos.old. Funny was she had been using the potty since she was 15mos. old. Just a very very stubborn, headstrong child.
