Ok. This is REALLY long, but I just asked my friend the same question for myself and here is her answer!! TONS of good info. I hope this helps!
I’m so glad you are considering cloth diapers! It is absolutely worth the extra time and effort – which is not really all that much trouble anyway – and it’s way more fun than taping plastic to your baby 10 times a day. Did you know that disposable diapers only came to be widely used in the last 30 years? And it was only after the diaper manufacturers claimed to be working on how to recycle them all. Well that never happened so every baby not using cloth is contributing thousands of diapers to just sit in our landfills for thousands of years. Gross! Changing your little baby’s diaper is the most frequent task that you will do daily, next to putting your baby to breast, so why not make it fun. There are so many cute, comfy diapers to choose from that buying them is very addictive and putting them on and seeing how cute your baby looks is really fun.
If you are looking to save tons of money and are not worried about ease of use, pre-folds and covers is the way to go. Washing them yourself is easy and almost free. Hanging them in the sun is a natural way to get rid of stains and keep diapers fresh. There is nothing wrong with this option. It’s what our mom’s used. You do not have to use pins anymore. They make stretchy grips to hold the diapers on or you can just place them inside the cover and attach cover with Velcro tabs just like a disposable. Gone are the days of yucky rubber pants! There are many different ways to fold the diaper depending on baby’s age and body type. Folding them can make you feel very artistic and talented even though it’s really not hard once you get the hang of it. Brenton’s sister, Alecia, uses this method exclusively. We have tried both hemp and cotton pre-folds and both are VERY absorbent. Plus you can double them up at night, or slip in a small one folded in thirds, or use a doubler or two for more absorbency as they get older. There are many types of covers to choose from: wool, fleece, PUL, hemp, some crafty ones hand made by moms, etc. Some people use pre-folds during the day when you can change more often, and pocket diapers like Fuzzy Bunz for night time because you can stuff them so full.
If you want to enjoy the convenience of not washing your pre-folds you can use a diaper service. The downside is the cost and the harsh chemicals used to wash them. The cost will be about equal to disposable diapering – but better for the environment! You can ask them to use less harsh washing techniques on your diapers, but they still may bother sensitive babies. I know several people who love their diaper service. You leave a bag of dirties outside the door. Next thing you know, they are gone and a bag of clean diapers is in their place. Cool. By the way, using pre-folds, is the only option (here anyway) with a diaper service. And you buy and wash your own covers.
If ease of use is your top priority, there are sooooo many options ranging a great deal in price. I can give you some websites and tell you what we like, just to get you started. Then it’s happy shopping to you!
Here is a good web page that recommends how many diapers to buy to get started. It is assuming you will be using mostly pre-folds and covers but you still get the general idea.
http://www.diaperpin.com/howto.asp
We started with 12 Fuzzy Bunz pocket diapers and 12 infant pre-folds plus 2 Bummis Whisper Wraps and one Bummi polar fleece cover. We had to wash diapers every day at first because newborns poop every time they eat. Eventually we ordered 12 more Fuzzy Bunz because Brenton liked them better than the pre-folds, and we washed diapers every other day. If you wait much longer than that, they really start to stink like ammonia.
At 6 months Braxton outgrew the smalls so we ordered 12 medium Fuzzy Bunz, 6 Grow With Me Mothereve diapers (I do not recommend!), and 6 premium pre-folds plus 3 more larger sized pre-fold covers. All of these diapers still fit today. This is enough get us by with washing every other day. I've read that if you have a thinner baby, you may be able to use the medium Fuzzy Bunz all the way through potty-training, and that will probably be the case for us. We have a friend with a very heavy boy and he hardly used the mediums before they were too small, but he has been in larges for a long time now. It depends on the size of your baby, but Fuzzy Bunz have worked for both Braxton (super skinny) and his friend who is a super chunk. They are our favorite diapers.
A good explanation of diaper types: http://diaperpages.com/cd_article.php
Good reviews of all types of diapers: http://www.diaperpin.com/diapers/itemlist.asp?subcat=POCK...
Now, do not think that you have to decide now, or it will be too late. You have plenty of time to try things after the baby is born and you can usually have diapers shipped to you pretty quickly. It might be a good idea to have one each of a few different kinds of diapers to try out, and then order more of your favorites later. But you get a discount when you order larger numbers.
We originally planned to use 7th Generation disposables just for the first few days so the cloth ones would not be ruined by meconium (not sure if this would really be a problem, just guessing), but we ended up using them for at least a month because Braxton only weighed 6 lbs at birth and the small Fuzzy Bunz don't fit until 8 lbs. We did start using cloth wipes right away though. They do make newborn sized cloth diapers, but most babies would outgrow them in a couple weeks or wouldn't use them at all if they are a really big baby, so it didn't seem cost effective to me. With the next baby, I will probably get some newborn pre-folds or flats because they are cheap, and avoid disposies altogether. You can always use these tiny diapers as doublers later on. Alecia used newborn size pre-folds for her baby and they fit for a couple months.
There is another kind of diaper that can save you money. That is the sizable styles such as Bum Genius. These diapers can be snapped so that they fit newborns and changed to fit every size up to toddler. This is nice because you don’t have to buy 2 or 3 different sizes over the years.
There is also a type called an all-in-one that are supposed to be the easiest to use. I personally would only use these if the inserts either remove or lift apart from the diaper for easy washing and faster drying. Some have the absorbency sewn right in, but they don’t get as clean and they take forever to dry.
There are 2 main types of inserts for pocket diapers, like Fuzzy Bunz, hemp – the most absorbent, and microfiber – the fastest absorbing. In our pocket diapers we use mostly Joey Bunz hemp (for lots of absorbency), with a top layer of microfiber (for fast absorbency of the initial flow). This gives us the best of both worlds.
I also want to mention that you can buy fleece liners for pretty cheap, or buy a piece of fleece and cut your own. These are just rectangles of fleece that you can use in multiple ways. They can be placed over a pre-fold so that your baby's skin touches the fleece which wicks the moisture away from the skin into the pre-fold. You can also use them to protect your fleece diapers (like Fuzzy Bunz) when using diaper rash cream. These creams will ruin your fleece. It doesn't wash out and makes the pee roll right off the fleece and out the legs. But you can replace the liners a lot cheaper than the diapers and protect your investment.
You asked if there was an alternative that you might be missing. Here it is: G diapers. They come in a box set of 2 cotton covers, 4 snap in rubber liners, a few starter disposable inserts and a swish stick. Then you buy more packages of disposable inserts. These inserts biodegrade in 7 days or you can drop them in the toilet, swish to dissolve, and flush them. They are pretty awesome. We use them for longer trips when we can't do the wash. Oh, and they are free from plastic and chlorine. We buy them at Whole Foods but you can order them online too: http://www.gdiapers.com/
More about cloth wipes. We bought about 50 cloth wipes made by a work at home mom (aka: WAHM) that are flannel on one side and fleece on the other. They are all kinds of cute designs, nice and thick, and work really well. I know some people who buy baby wash rags and use those. You could also make your own wipes. I just found this great website for wipe solutions! http://ezinearticles.com/?Make-Your-Own-Wipe-Solution&...
I don't know if this has been any help to you. It is just the tip of the iceberg! Hopefully you can search the internet on some of this lingo and get more info. There are still other options that I haven’t mentioned because we haven’t tried them, “fitted” diapers and “contours”, for example. It is a hard decision to make, but part of the fun is trying all different things, so take your time and enjoy! Don't feel like you have to buy everything up front. I'm glad you guys are considering cloth – you are awesome!
If you order only one parenting magazine, let it be Mothering Magazine. So awesome. It's totally about natural mothering. You'll love it. They also have a great website. Here's a bunch of cloth diapering articles there, but there are more!
Mothering Magazine Article: Joy of Cloth Diapers
A Mothering Magazine article on cloth vs. disposable exploring all points of view.
www.mothering.com/articles/new_baby/diapers/joy-of-cloth....
Mothering Magazine Article: The Politics of Diapers
The consultant finds that laundering a cloth diaper over the course of its ... In addition, the study concludes that laundering cloth diapers produces ...
www.mothering.com/articles/new_baby/diapers/politics.html
A Tale of Two Diapers by Peggy O'Mara - Editorials on Natural ...
Lehrburger concluded that each family that chooses cloth diapers prevents one ton ... Little concluded that laundering a cloth diaper over the course of its ...
www.mothering.com/guest_editors/quiet_place/138.html
Mothering Magazine Article: Getting Started with Cloth Diapers
If you launder cloth diapers at home, you can save as much as $1500 over the ... 3-5 dozen cloth diapers, or 5 dozen all-in-ones 5 diaper covers per size ...
www.mothering.com/articles/new_baby/diapers/joy-of-cloth-...