It's NOT your fault. It's your child's temperament. She needs more, and until she can verbally communicate well, it's hard. Of my 3, two of them were (and one still is) SUPER clingy. With my older daughter who is now 6, it seriously lasted until she was 4 and my twins were born. Only 1 of my twins is EXTREMELY clingy, but the other has days, too. My son and my daughter were all day, every day. It can be embarrassing, heartbreaking, and extremely frustrating. With my 1st, it was easier to give in to her because she was the only child then. People joked that she was my monkey - clinging so tightly to me that if I let go, she'd still hang on and stay up! With my twins, I have one other the same age AND an older daughter to care for, play with, work with all the time, so I've had to force changes. When it's really bad, I try to drop everything and give him 5 minutes of nothing but me. I started this with my son when he was first walking at 10 months and with my daughter when she was about 2 1/2. I wish I started sooner with her because it worked as well for both despite the age differences!! Whether it's tickling or reading or just sitting and cuddling, it's just 5 minutes. Then I transition to something else. If I have to do something in the kitchen, I will tell him - down at his level - to hold my hand and come help me unload the dishes or something. He'll hand me safe silverware from the dishwasher and it's neat and useful and fun for him. This way he's getting my attention in a productive way and being near me without being on me - or as I've always said - trying to crawl back into the womb because he clearly didn't get enough time there! Both kids responded really well to this. When I'm trying to distract him so I can do something with my other 2 kids, I will have him bring me things. Or I will find a way to incorporate him into the playing or activity I'm doing with the others. If I'm cooking, I will have him "cook" with spare pots and pans or toys from their kitchen set. I keep talking to him and telling him what I'm doing and ask him to go do things. My son easily followed 2 step directions at 14 months, so you might try something like "I'm cooking now. Take this spoon over there and stir this pot for me"...and have the pot somewhere away from you, but within sight. It's the hardest part about having more than one kid - they have different needs, and you have to divide yourself among them...on top of everything else you have to get done! I encourage my kids to play together, too, despite the age difference (22 month twins and 6 yr old), and we always find something. I also encourage a lovey of some kind. Both my older daughter and son had a blanket. I would be consistent. When I could do no more - for whatever reason - I would give them their blankets, set them down on the couch, and tell them what I had to go to do. Or say, "Wait here, while I go check the oven. I'll be right back." And I'd come back with blocks or something we could do separately or alone, hopefully without touching! Whenever possible, though, I try to get them involved with me near me, but not on me. That's not to say there still aren't days where I feel like I'm being attacked. And I've never felt like I was cold or withholding love or affection or attention. That's what the 5 minute breaks are for. And sometimes, in those little 5 minute segments, I've had so much fun with my kids that I forgot how frustrated I was. I still take the breaks with my 6 year old, and she recently told her kindergarten teacher that I am a fun mom who gets down on the floor and plays with her "all the time." It's amazing the impression they get from just 5 minutes here & there. I truly feel for you, though. It's very hard. I had to change much about myself to get the results I needed from my kids, but I believe it's been for the better. Good luck!