G.G.
Hi, K..
You are so smart to let her help now! Maybe if she grows up helping, she'll be a teenager who is just "in the habit" of helping!!
When my daughter was younger and wanted to help, I bought her a spray bottle which I filled with water. She used it to clean the TV (in the days before plasma screens!), the windows, the front of the oven, anything she could spray and wipe. I also bought her a basket and taught her to go through the house each evening, looking for her things, and putting them into the basket. Then the basket went to her room with her and things could be put where they belonged. It was lots easier than making all those trips back and forth, and she felt so "official" carrying around that basket! She also became the table-setter. I'll never forget the first time she refused to do that job. I went ahead and put the food on the table and called everyone in to eat. Her dad (who hadn't heard the "refusal scene") said, "Uh ... how are we supposed to eat with no plates and no forks?" That's all it took for her to jump out of her seat, grab the stuff, and get the table set. The experience really taught her the importance of everyone doing their share, and she learned that helping is not only fun, but it matters!! I think kids need to know they matter.
Anyway ... have fun. Four is such a fun age!!
Geri