L.R.
Hi! I do not know if I can offer advice. My in-laws are just as bad. They live in their small 5 minute world and anyone who does not live by them does not see them. My hubby and I go visit them more often than they do us. Our son does not really know them because he sees them infrequently. My hubby's sis seems resign to it but his mom says it is not right that he does not know me but even when our baby is around she says hi and does not interact with him. She finally said her main reason for not coming to our home is because we do not live in a direct exit they have to come to Paterson to come to our town, Prospect Park, NJ. I have no problem where we live we also live right by Hawthorne, NJ. My hubby seems to think she'll drive up here but she does not drive on any highways. We even will be giving his sis and hubby alternate directions. I really do not think that will change the amount of times they come up here. I told my hubby once they get those directions and do not come here very often we have done everything we can. We will definitely go down for any of his sis's twins events since we do not mess up the kids in drama. They also have to come here for any of our sons's events here. I though it would be better but my hubby lets his family get to him and I never get messed up in the drama and they know not to mess with me because they know I am capable of telling them off but I have not. Our son will see his dad's side of the family but if he is not that close to them they have themselves to blame. Christmas is done in or around or town since my family lives here too. They're family has a holiday party in January. We will be there and the grandma will again say hi to our child and ignore him the rest of time and blame us for it. Everyone thinks she is crazy and she is rather lonely person and that is what she has done to herself.