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Dear Richard,
Sounds like you're a wonderful father and your wife and children are very blessed to have you in their lives. One topic you did not mention was if and where you go to church? You're probably thinking, church?? What does church have to do with sex and affairs...right?? Well first and foremost God created Sex!!! Yes, I know people find it hard to believe, but it's true. If you doubt it...find a bible and look up the book Song of Songs....it' amazing. My point here being that God has many rules and regulations on marriage and labors of love...love is patience, love is kind, love does not boast, loves protects, etc. God says sex is great...as long as it is within the boundary of marriage and is one way for a couple to be most intimate and loving and honoring to God. So my suggestion is if you don't already belong to a church, find one and ask if they have special couple/marriage courses. These would be a great opporunity for you and your wife to spend some needed time together and to learn about the needs of each other. One thing I have learned from God's way of living is that my husband has certain physical needs that are very important to him....as much as my needs of being appreciated and cuddled. When you can have an outside person explaining these to you it seems more natural and normal. A great church in the area is "The Chapel" in Grayslake....thechapel.org. Check it out...they have services every Sunday at 9 a.m and 11 a.m. I think you'll find this church a great resource. Maybe this is the answer for you....
P.S. I was reading this to my husband and he wanted me to mention...friends that would suggest an affair....are not really your true friends...WRONG COUNSEL!!!
We wish you luck and will be praying for you and your family...hang in there!!!