Child Visitation - Salt Lake City,UT

I went through this too. I called the Judges chamber and asked. (call today!) I was told that since the order stated I had my son on that holiday, which cancels out weekend visitation, I got him for the day it was celebrated.

Might be different in your state/county...but I suggest you call the Judges Chamber and ask. That way it's on record that you called in case you are told yes and your ex says no. You can call them back on Tuesday and let them know how the weekend went.

Good luck,
Nanc

Dear Dannette,

If I am correct Kew Gardens is in the Queens NY jurisdiction. The 4th of July holiday is usually a THREE day holiday. Queens along with most of the US recognizes Monday, July 5th as the official holiday off for the 4th of July celebration this year. I think your former husband may be trying to bully you...but it is not too late to check it out and make sure you are both abiding by the courts ruling on holidays. If it is possible the both of you could make a compromise for the sake of your child/children, please try.

Blessings....

We are celebrating on the 4th in our community. I've never heard of an "observed" day for the 4th before.

Definitely check with your local judge and/or with your attorney regarding the schedule you have in place. My ex had our children for Memorial Day weekend and I assumed he would keep them through the Monday holiday. Since our agreement is only specific to weekend visitation and not holidays, he brought them home Sunday night as per the usual routine. Worth checking, but I agree with some of the other comments, take the high road and try to pick your battles. Probably not worth a fight in this case. Good luck!

It should be listed in your custody agreement. In our city there are celebrations (every year) on the 3rd & 4th. We've just alternated every year. No matter whose weekend it was. For example - this year the 4th falls on his weekend. But, I'll have her from noon Saturday (3rd) to noon on Sunday (4th).

If your agreement says the 4th then you get them the 4th at the agreed time. I personally have never celebrated the 4th on the 3rd.Maybe in time the time frame can be more flexiable. Try to understand maybe why your ex wants them on the 3rd .Maybe if you explain whatever special plans you were hoping to do, suck it up and tell your ex how much you would appreciate it and how much fun the kids would have hopefully your ex will sympathizes with you and let you have them at dusk so that you could still possibly go through with your plans. It can only get better

Yes, in th state of Utah, the fireworks are done on Saturday since July 4th lands on Sunday. It is the LDS religion. But you might log on to our local new stations and find where the fireworks are being let off. I noticed that there are some on the 3rd, 4th, and 5th. So you could always find some place to take your kid or kids on Sunday night. You would defintely need to find out your rights to your visitation schedule. But mostly likely if it states you have him on July 4th, it would be that day. You could alway put off your own fireworks as well. Hopefully you will be able to come to an understanding between the both of you. Good luck.

Always take the high road when dealing with the ex. If it's his weekend but your holiday, be happy to have them on Sunday and tell him thank you, since it cuts into his time. You can find fireworks on the 4th,too. Our neighborhood is like a war zone on the 4th!

The 4th is always celebrated on the 4th. Refer to the order for visitation. If you are to have the children on the Holiday, you will have the kids on the 4th. Don't go by what your ex is saying always refer to the order. If there is some bone of contention and he wants the kids on the 4th perhaps you could work out some other arrangement. The visitation order for my son permits him to spend time with his father on Sunday's from 3 pm - 8 pm but we also have other times when my son spends time with his father outside of the order. However there is no order for visitation for my stepson and his mom doesn't get to see him.

Is it worth the fight?

With my husbands visitation we get his son on certain weekends and on certain holidays. If the holiday falls on a weekend that is not ours then we get him for the specific holiday not the day that the holiday is observed. Also if the holiday falls on our weekend but it is his exes holiday then we lose the day. That is just the way it falls. Holidays out rank normal visitation schedules because they are bonus times agreed on and most of the time they fall in the middle of the week. Hope this helps.

You will have to look at your visitation guidelines. It should specify exactly what you get (ie - mine says "even numbered years from 5pm July 3rd until 12:00 noon on July 5th"). If it just says July 4th, then you probably only get them for the day - but I wonder why your ex would NOT want you to have extra visitation?
As far it being "celebrated" on Saturday July 3rd, I don't really know what you mean - our fireworks in are on the 4th and we are celebrating on the 4th.