Hello all! My ex husband has yet again jumped the boat with his company RIGHT as child support was starting to be taken out. The last payment I received from him was back in Feb this year... I finally got all my paper work in order and the AG office sent out the papers to his employeer to start witholding his payments. Well come last week he was let go?? Not sure of any information except that now I won't be getting payments AGAIN... he is WAY far behind (has not even touched paying me back pay or any part of their medical expenses since last Sept.).... lets just say I am LIVID..... Someone I work with said that you can apply somewhere and if you qualify (I guess according to your income) the state will just start pay you what he is supposed to pay and they will go after him to pay them back? Have you heard of this? If so do you know how to go about it? ANY help or knowledge will be AWESOME.... please ladies/gentleman help me PLEASE.....
The only downside is, he does not have a house or any belogings (not even a car)... and the last time he filled his taxes he owed them money..... not sure if he has even paid them back.. so I was thinking I could get his tax return next year but I have a feeling that the money will just go straight to the state.... I am at a lose lose situation with him.... it is so pathetic.. he seems to think that it is only hurting me, when all in all he is only hurting his daugters..... it just discusts me with a passion...
Yes its called wefare....Apply there and they will give you the money and collect it from him. The only bad thing about it is....when he files his taxes instead of it coming to you (because he is in the rears) it will go to welfare. Or what ever they call it there...
HTH
You have lots of suggestions on state/county agencies for the child support issue. You can't depend on your ex. I think success is the best revenge. Do what you can to better yourself and make more money for your family. When/if you ever get this money it will be extra for the girls.
I don't think the state will pay what he is supposed to pay but if you qualify for state aid you can get that and they will go after him for that money.
I know each state has different programs so maybe your state is different.
Contact human services in your county and see what they will do...although I have never heard of the state paying you, and taking his money later. I do know that if you apply for assistance (at least in my state) and qualify, they will go after him for child support, but then THEY keep in to help "pay" for your assistance. Good luck! :)
You really should sit down with someone in the Department of Social Services. They deal with issues for women and children and can probably find you a good lawyer who would only charge you based on your income that wouldn't ream you and can answer your questions about this. It would very likely vary state by state as to what can be done about going after him and how.
If his arrears are extreme (don't know what Texas considers extreme) they will throw him behind bars until he is caught up.
I would file a grievance with the courts regarding the delinquent child support you must be both diligent and proactive. Aside from that you will also need to figure out ways you can gain additional income to support your girls and never say anything negative about him either in their presence or outside of it. He is their father and part of their identity they will get from him.
I hope this helps and pray for the best for you and your girls. They will only be small for a short time so try not to stress before you know it they will be out of your house and on their own. Continue to set a good example for them about not being taken advantage of and holding someone accountable without being bitter. It's a delicate balancing act but it must be done to raise healthy and whole girls into women.
That sounds like cash assistance. If you qualify for TANF then they will take whatever cs payments are sent. I have the same problem with my ex. The state can suspend his license and put tax liens on property. Also they will go after any tax refunds. If he receives unemployment they can garnish that. Does he make his payments thru the state? If so then they should automatically do these things.
It is called child only welfare, what ever they call it in your state.
The reason we don't do this is:
If the amount they collect from him in any given month is more than they pay you, they keep the rest so they can average it out for the rest of the time.
If he pays you upon getting a job they still only pay you the welfare amount. In Oklahoma it $88 per month, doesn't matter how many kids you have, it's only $80 something dollars.
We get $240 on one child regularly, the other child gets nothing from his dad of the court ordered $170 per month, and my daughter pays nothing of her court ordered $170 per month per child, $340 per month total.
If we applied for the child only TANF, Temporary Aid to Needy Families, then they would take ALL of the child support paid to us and distribute the $88 per month, keeping the other hundreds. It is not a fair system.
To me the better deal is the child support enforcement taking the parents income tax refunds and disbursing those funds to us after the IRS gets theirs. Plus the child support the one dad pays is enough to buy our groceries for the month and a little extra. I work 3 part time jobs to pay for the kids classes at the gym/dance studio, the YMCA, soccer, BMX. etc....
Call your local attorney generals office and talk to them directly about child support enforcement. He can be jailed for this and lose all professional licenses! Of course, you don't want that because then he really wont pay. But, they will talk to you about your options.
You can go on Texas Department of Human Services website and see if you qualify, based on income for medicaid and or TANF. If you do, print the application and send it in with all the required documentation. Not having the documentation in order will slow down the process.
I'm sorry you're having to deal with this! I don't know the legal end, but I would suggest accepting that you are never going to get much from him. Focus elsewhere as best you can. You're spending a lot of emotional energy on this. It isn't worth it. Look for ways to find support and help, and ways to increase your income and make your situation work as best you can. You might check local churches for both encouragement and practical help. I wrote a blog post the other day about thriving as a single mom in the church. Blessings,
L.
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Every state is different.
Here in Wisconsin, since we have no AFDC, child support is taken right out the father's check whether it's a paycheck or unemployment check. The child support agency is part of the district attorney's office and can issue an arrest warrent for unpaid child support. They can also order that any payments he gets unemployment, tax refund, even get a lien on his car or home to pay for back child support.
Since each state is different I would contact the child support agency for your county and ask what services are available to you.
Our office is called DES. You can apply for cash assistance.
