Child Support - Laconia,NH

Amanda is right, laws are very different from state to state. If you have not already done so, find an attorney, if you can't afford one call the legal aid society in your county and ask where to go from there. Your child has the right to his father's support, financially and emotionally...take all the help you are legally entiltiled to mamma, bless you for being cooperative, but think of what your child will need first! good luck

This sounds odd. Why don't you want your ex to pay child support, especially when it sounds like you will not have enough income to support your child?

Laws vary from state to state, you should consult an attorney.

If you cant afford your kids on your own & then you apply for government assistance, the government will go after your ex......in other words why should we pay for your children if thy have a father that can & should financially support them

It doesn't matter what you want. Child support is not for you, it's for the kids. This man is obviously abusive if he is able to control you enough even after breaking up and manipulate you into actually being afraid enough to tell a judge you don't want child support. Judges, thank the good Lord, do what is best for children, not what will keep drama out of your life.

B.,

I answered one of your previous posts. If you tell the judge you don't want child support, he may just accept that. He will probably ask you how in the world you plan to support your children on your low income, and then you will have to answer "I don't have any idea" or "I will go on welfare". Does that make sense? Maybe the judge will figure out that you are being manipulated, but in many family courts, the judges are overwhelmed and don't want to get involved in cases where both the husband and wife appear to agree with each other.

You are going down a very dangerous path if you get pressured into saying you don't want child support. It makes no sense at all and it is wrong wrong wrong for your kids.

If you apply for any, ANY, state aid such as medical cards, food stamps, child care assistance, housing assistance, WIC, they will require him to pay child support, you will still receive the benefit but they will make you sign a statement giving them the authority to file for support for your children. You should receive child support, they are his children too and it is his responsibilty. If you ever want to be able to afford extras like sports, dance, college, occassional snack food, etc...you will need that money.

If he is abusive to you and you are afraid that if he is ordered to pay child support he will try to hurt you or the children then there are some laws around to offer you protection but your local child support office could give you more details.

We live on SSI and are raising some of my granchildren. The kids fathers don't see them, they just don't care enough I guess. The court ordered child support and so our local child support office handles the finding the fathers and contacting their employers. The child support is taken out each payday and the employer sends/online transfers it to the child support office. The dads don't actually ever see the check. It is automatically deposited onto a debit card that I use for many things.

One of the dads sends money for Christmas and Birthdays too but it is extra and doesn't count towards the regular payment. Also he carries his daughter on his insurance. It also is an extra he does and it does not count as child support. It's a voluntary thing for him to do and even though we have medical cards on the kids we appreciate him making the effort.

If you end up needing any government assistance they will go after him, you wont have a choice or you will lose your aid! my ex and i had an agreement for child support but even that wasnt enough for the state and they are going after him. Stupid thing is that he gives me more money than they are gonna make him give me and they know it! I dont understand though why you wouldnt want support. Im not trying to judge you, you must have your reasons I just know that I couldnt support my kids without my child support and if you decline it now and they accept it you may have a very hard time getting it back in the future if you should change your mind. I would contact a lawyer. Good luck!