Child Getting in Trouble at School Everyday

First of all, what school does he go to? NEVER believe ANY teacher in this district when they say..."we are takeing care of it at school". From ATON of experience, the school waits til THEY can't handle it any more instead of trying to nip it in the bum before it gets worse. An example of how this district runs.....they threaten punishment for bullying, yet dont follow through. What's that teach the child. And of course it continues. 2 kids jumped my son. I was never allowed to see the video, and the WELL KNOWEN bullies got nothing done to them. My son forgot his assignment at home...he was suspended for a day. NO>>>IM NOT KIDDING. 4 years I've been asking for an IEP for my son. Mr. Rothlisburger in the last 2 days he was there got me the paper work. My son has 4 Fs and 2 Ds, yet that's not bad enough for any help and they are passing him onto 7th. NOT...I'm seriously thinking about Greenway. WAY smaller class sizes and more time to focus on YOUR child. Sorry for venting. I would ask them what EXACTLEY they have done to take care of it at school. Did they document that? What do they want YOU to do about it. He is THEIR responsibility when he's in their care. Do they expect you to sit all day in class with him? The bus driver called one day and said my son said "lesbian" I said...ok...so what did you do about it? Ya know? I did talk to my son about it but....what the heck do they want me to do?? They have rules, if he breaks them, punish him. Trust me, the school will always turn things around back to you, say what they are going to do...and not do it. Just be ready. Get in control of this district before he gets to that middle school in classes that will for a fact, by the time he gets there,will have 40 plus kids in each class.

So sorry to hear that S., but I have seen this happen before. It maybe that your step son is looking for attention from his father and you. He doesn't understand it or do it on purpose. When he gets into trouble he gets added attention. You have shown that though all the wonderful ways you have tried to help him in the past. He can be very jealous of the twins, but knows he isn't suppose to be, so he acts out and gets the attention he craves. He is very insecure and that is not unusual with the blending of two families. God bless, this too will past with love, care and understanding.

My son is 13 and still has many of the same issues. In the case of my son, he was/is somewhat bored in class and wants attention. Also, he only listens to others occasionally, so we found out that when the teacher asked him politely to stop talking he didn't hear her. One trick we tried at that age was that our son and the teacher had certain "secret" messages about when to talk or not talk, when to answer questions or not. They had a plastic apple on the teacher's desk and when she gave him that apple, it was his last warning that he was going to be sent out of the room. My son also responds to a light touch on the arm - a physical sign to get his attention that he needs to have better control. We had our son tested for ADHD, which they said he doesn't have, but he is impulsive and bright. Good luck. It is a hard place to be for everyone.

My 12 yr old was having problems keeping out of trouble in school at that age too. So since our school had an open door policy, I showed up 15 minutes before the school day was over and sat in the back of the classroom, it help him see that mom wasn't going to put up with bad behavior and that mom really did care about how he did in school. It worked so well the teacher stopped me in the hall one day while I was picking up his brother for an appointment and asked me if I could come back at least once a week. My showing up at school also helped my oldest son with turning in his homework because it was embarassing to have his mom at school.

S., as a previous sped teacher, I would suggest that the teacher play soft music in the room, allow him to have his own headset to listen to, or to geographically move him away from the students he is talking to.

I'm curious to your repsonses my daughter is the same way. All she wants to do is chit chat. She's had this problem Preschool,kindergarten and now 1st grade and I don't see it stopping anytime soon.

I'm NOT trying to be rude or anything. Have you ever thought of having him tested for stuff like ADHD, etc.