Changing Schools - Genoa City,WI

Updated on October 02, 2013
S.D. asks from Genoa City, WI
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Hi Mamas,

So my question is about changing my girls schools. Their dad and I have recently gotten back together and have been offered a amazing deal on a nice rental house. We are currently in two different towns and only see each other on the weekends. If we take the house my girls who are 5 and 8 ( they're in kindergarten and 2nd grade) will have to change the grade school they are in. I feel like such a bad mom if we have to change their schools, I know that they're still young enough that they'll adapt well, I just hate to pass up this opportunity for this great house. What would you Mama's do?

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A.L.

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S., please feel free to take this with a grain of salt... and it is not meant to insult you.
When you say you "recently" got back together with their dad how recently are we talking, how long where you apart and why? You need to answer none of these questions to me, but you should remind yourself of what happened in your life.

Not knowing your exact situation it sounds to me like you are moving too fast. If you are not in counseling with your partner you should be before you move your family back together. The worst thing that you could do to these girls is to make the move and change schools just to have it all fall apart again...and separate form their dad a second time. Unfortunately if you have broken up once, your relationship is more likely to end in another break up if you do not do some serious work on it.
I cannot emphasize enough that working with a professional counselor to get a more objective view of what you need to do to make this work is absolutely priceless - no matter how much you love your partner and how happy you are to be reunited. When you're in love it's easy to forget what caused you to split in the first place.

Moving to a new school/town in itself doesn't make you a bad mom, but if it doesn't last the second time around a change in schools is the least of your worries.
Good luck.

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L.U.

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I wouldn't change schools until you are married to this guy.
He was able to leave you and your two girls once, what's to say he wont do it again.
NOW....if you are just going to pass over that little nugget of advice and do it anyways, then yes. Kids are resiliant and your girls are still very young and would probably do fine at a new school. My eldest has gone to 3 different elementary schools and my second has gone to two. I felt bad about switching them so often, but they are doing fine.
L.

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P.G.

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If it's a better move for the family, then you need to do it. Yes it will be a big change, but they are young and will adjust. You can talk to the school counselors at both schools so they can help with the transition. Talk to their teachers as well. Be open with the kids - prepare them, don't surprise them with this. You don't have to overload them, but they need to know what's going on in basic terms. I don't know if it's possible to move over the holidays so they have time off already, or what, but that might make things easier. Perhaps their old school can have a little going-away party, or you can have one so they can hang out with friends and get e-mails/addresses, etc. to keep in touch.

Just be responsible about it and open with the kids. My mother kept getting married and moving, but she just didn't think of us at all. THAT was the problem, not really the moving, but the not thinking things through first.

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J.N.

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is the nice house in a good school district. which school is better? before you come to any decsions I would check out the schools. Is the area safe? Are there kids outside for your kids to play with? Is it a busy road the house is on? good luck.

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C.V.

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Move and change schools. They'll be fine, and I'm sure the pros outweight the cons. Be positive and don't go along with any negative talk.

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M.O.

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I went to different schools every 2-3 years and I'm fine :)

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