Chances of Getting Prego on the Pill But....

I agree with Brownstar's response-there are So Many things wrong here! #1-I strongly suggest that you do not have another child with "bf"!

Chances could be pretty high , the "take two pills if you miss" is meant to be a once a cycle type of thing, you do it more then that and you are really messing with how it works. The pill is definitely not for you, and if you are not married or with anyone for good then you are not ready to have another baby in two years so going on the Depo would be a good idea. Messing with the chance of getting pregnant while on the pill is bad for the "possible" baby. You wouldn't want to harm a baby knowingly would you because if you know you are not good with taking the pill then you are knowingly putting a possible unborn baby at risk.

I honestly can't believe what I'm reading. Your post makes me ACHE in sympathy for your daughter. Please don't do this to another child. Ditch the "bf", keep your legs together, get your own place and focus on your child. Maybe someday you'll be grown-up enough to get MARRIED and have another child.

You are playing with fire. Everyone enjoys the deed, but it really isn't a need. You are not a critter. You act as if you are not capable of controlling yourself. It is incredibly selfish to conceive children outside of marriage. Babies need Daddies. My suggestion is quite having sex. Work it out with your boyfriend, get married and commit to raising you daughter.

OMG .. . .. I couldn't even finish your comments. There are so many things wrong with this picture.

The pill works best when taking at the same time every day (that is what it is meant for), skipping and taking two frequently is a recipe for getting pregnant AND throwing your body off even more. Which means your periods could be all over the place, bad symptoms and so on. Also just another note my doc told me the first month taking the pill I could easily get pregnant because my body would be getting use to the pill so we used protection. I was also horrible at remembering to take the pill, so I set my cell phone to give me a daily reminder to take it (works like a charm).

You have a lot going on in your life with the boyfriend, child and maybe some hormone issues. Might be best to focus on yourself, child and less on boyfriend and sex. Maybe talk to your doctor about other options like merania or the ring and with a boyfriend that needs to get his act together sounds like you should be using protection like condoms too. Something that you do not have to remember daily.

I got pregnant while on the pill AND using a condom... obviously my darling daughter was meant to be here now rather then later BUT I am in a committed stable relationship, which is the only way I would ever think about having a sexual relationship with someone (who cares if you have the urges, be in a committed stable relationship before having sex!).

This response is for this post & your new post of your alias Aubri/old moms vs younger moms:

I think if your Dr was to read all your previous posts he would encourage you to get back on the Depo.

You are playing house & thinking you are a mature mother & wanna be wife but it's quite the opposite. And I know this because I was you several years ago! I had my dghtr at 17 & was in a committed relationship for 7 yrs, but then I grew up & matured & noticed I needed a man not a boy. So I am not passing judgement I am passing experience and this is what this site is all about. So with all the wonderful knowledge of all these moms on here that you asked for their assistance & guidance on take a step back & settle down & start thinking about how you can make your life better for you & your daughter. And getting pregnant right now is the irresponsible & immature thing to do at the moment.

I think you need a mentor to talk to & get some good advice from. Do you know a married couple that you admire & you can get a good sense of a healthy stable relationship? Be proactive instead of upset that you feel you have been bashed. I believe that the majority of the moms on here really care about the people on this forum & want to make a positive difference in the responses they give to the poster looking for help.

I would go back on the depo. It doesn't sound like you are responsible enough to manage to take the pill daily (which is the only way it will work). I do wonder why you would even worry about getting pregnant AGAIN in the next two years - you are 20 yrs old, not married, having boyfriend troubles and already have a young daughter. What's the hurry?

Under your other mamapedia name of Aubri? you expressed outrage over what your perceived as "judgment" from the responders on this post.

But "judgment" in itself is not a good or bad thing. As people are all too fond of saying lately, it just is what it is. It is what you do with the judgment that matters. Ask yourself: If so many of your peers-in-motherhood seem less that impressed about your birth control conundrum...Could it be because you need to change something or is it because you are right and they are ALL wrong?

Having said that, since you have asked for the advice of perfect strangers, here's mine: Stop dating the boyfriend. Take depo again. Buy condoms and use them (because as a previous poster pointed out, you do not even want to know how completely STD ridden your 20-something dating pool is). Finish college. Get a job. Create a committed relationship with man with an education, a good job, a love of staying home and playing family board games.

Why don't you set an alarm to go off at a time you are always home? That's how I remembered to take the pill. Or get one that's not a daily.

I went back and read some of your other posts, and I've gotta say that you need to leave this dude! He sounds like a controlling a-hole, and you don't want your daughter to see that or for you to go through that. Stop having sex, leave him, and get your life together for the sake of your daughter!

I agree with other posters that you need a different birth control option that you don't have to take a pill every day - like the patch or the nuva ring. I think you need to take a step back and really evaluate your life right now. If you can't remember to take a pill every day, how do you expect to juggle two children when you're in an unstable non-committed relationship. Children are a responsibility and not an accessory. They don't ask to be brought into this world and, as parents, we need to make sure we're providing them with the best environment possible. Until you are in a committed relationship (ideally marriage), thinking about getting pregnant should be the furthest thing from your mind. Sometimes, doing the right thing is the harder thing to do. Good luck.

You can absolutely be pregnant. Stop having sex for now, get back on the pill and buy some condoms. If you find out you're not pregnant, change your form of BC. You can get the patch, which is like the pill only you stick it on and change it every week. You'll have to remember to do that. You could also get Mirena, which most insurances cover at least part of, and that lasts for 5 years. You can have it taken out any time during those 5 years if you choose to get pregnant again. You don't have to do anything and you can't feel it in your day to day routine. Do some research on what will work for you and be proactive!

My 3month old was conceived while I was on the pill. I was put on it to regulate my period as well. I didn't miss any doses and had also been told there was little or no chance that I would ever be able to have a child. So, you are playing with fire, that's for sure!

I think you should consider the relationship you have with the "BF". It sounds as if you two have some issues that need to be resolved, so you might want to make sure that because you two are still having sex, that you pay close attention to your birth control methods. There are chances that you could get prego, because your system could become irregular. Your system does not know when to ovulate. Good luck.

You can get pregnant by taking the pill the same time every day just like the label says you should. So, of course, you could be pregnant.

D. K said it best. You sound like you're simply not responsible enough for the pill right now. Sex results in babies. There are only 2 birth controls that are 100% effective
1. Abstinence
2. Sterilization

Otherwise, you always run the risk of getting pregnant. I know it sounds like a lot of us are lecturing you, but re-read your message and see if you believe it to sound responsible. To the rest of us, it comes across as pretty selfish that a strong libido and lack of self-control with an on-again/off-again boyfriend could result in a child who may not have both parents active and present in their lives.

As someone who has a VERY high sex drive (5+ times a day isn't unheard of, although 3 times a day is more common)... TRUST me... you can go months and longer without sex. If you *can't* you need to get into therapy, because you're looking at addictive/compulsive behaviors.

But your chances for being pregnant? High.

It takes several weeks for the pill to start working in the first place, and they have to be consistent. Even then, some women's bodies get pregnant ON the pill. My son was conceived after having been on the pill (daily, not forgetting) for several years. Wasn't even an antibiotic problem (antibiotics make the pill ineffective).

If you can't remember to take a pill, get a patch or a ring. Something that you don't have to remember... or get an IUD (either copper or hormone).

There's also the issue that you've broken up (aka are no longer in a committed relationship) and are having unprotected sex. Obviously the pill doesn't protect against herpes, warts, HIV etc. So that's a BIG problem. The other STD's are treatable... but those 3 are with you for life... and your daughter can catch them from you if you're not being extremely careful. Herpes and warts can transfer via towels.

Honey, you need to take a step back and breathe for a bit.

One of my girlfriend's sisters got pregnant while on the pill doing the same thing - not taking it consistently. She actually just gave birth to the baby in May. So yes, it can happen. The pill is only effective at preventing pregnancy when taken as directed. Taking 2 pills every other day is definitely NOT as directed. Until you get into the "swing of things", remembering to take this pill every day, I'd do the safe and smart thing - use back-up birth control. Otherwise, you may wind up pregnant before you are ready, if you haven't already.

how about putting the pills next to your toothbrush. That way, every morning right before you brush your teeth, you take your pill?

Yes, you can and most likly will get pregnant. It's meant to be taken every day at the exact same time in order to reduce your chances of getting pregnant.

Good luck.

hey there well im not sure with this pill u are on but with most there is always a chance to get preg. if miss a pill. if you have such a hard time rembering the pill u should talk with ur doc about maybe the patch, or the nuva ring thing it may work better for u cause its a week to week thing hope this helps

I have been on birth control pills for 16 years or so. I have been pregnant twice now... on bc pills! Granted, the first pregnancy, I was also taking an antibiotic, which reduces effectiveness. 2nd time, I was on vacation, and missed a day, but took 2 the next day... yup... pregnant again! Be more careful if you really don't want to get pregnant. I am happily married and never wanted children, but couldn't imagine life with my one child, and very excited about the one on the way... we would have never planned them... rather the opposite, but things work in mysterious ways I suppose!

I conceived my first baby while I was on the pill, I forgot to take it that morning and took it pretty late at night instead like a 12 hour delay, even more I think. Anyways I got preggers that way, so it could D. happen,
Good luck and keep us posted,

YES YOU CAN. THE WAY YOU TAKE THE PILL IS NOT EFFECTIVE!The pill is not effective unless you take it everyday and you can only forget once..... So yes you may be preganant.

OH YAH !! Talk to your Dr. Before u do, exspecially if the relationship is not stable!!