I totally agree!! I have done both, worked FT with my first daughter and then did the SAHM thing with my second. The key phrase that some people below seemed to miss is the "work full-time and spend free time doing things without their kids . . ."
I clearly have no judgement for moms having to work FT, I am currently in that position. I can't justify spending anymore than the 40 hours per week away from my children. Just look at how the time breaks down when you spend your free time without your children:
Job - approx. 40 hours
- this leave you approx. 3 hours in the evening for dinner, bedtime, etc.
- if you workout, go shopping, socialize with friends after work, you might cut your time with your kids in 1/2 or worse.
Seriously, we all understand we have needs and we try to balance that with work/home but wanting to spend 3 hours in the evening "around" your kids should be a top priority. I would love to go to happy hour, don't get me wrong, but not when it sacrifices part of the very little time I have in the evening with my children.
**There are always extenuating circumstances, that is NOT what she is referring to (ie. if you have health problems, other things that MUST be taken care of, etc.). It is when you have a choice how you want to spend your free time and you choose shopping with the girls over being around for your kids when you are already out of the home most days.