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Updated on November 02, 2011
T.N. asks from Saratoga Springs, NY
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Years ago (maybe 8-10 years), before we lived together, my guy used to wear a gorgeous gold cross on a gold rope chain. It was substantial and clearly expensive, but certainly not gaudy. He never took it off.

I can't remember the conversation exactly, but one day I mentioned it, some complimentary thing. He told me an old gf gave it to him and made a joke about it being the only good thing to come out of THAT relationship.

Hmmm, I guess I didn't LIKE that he was still wearing something from an old gf, and, sigh, said so. I DIDN'T ask him to take it off, honestly cannot remember exactly what I said, but next time I saw him he wasn't wearing it and since I've never seen the thing again. We have not discussed it since. I have no idea what he did with it, but I've never seen it in his things.

I am only thinking about this now. It makes me feel bad. He is a religious man, and frankly, the thing looked fantastic on him.

So the question is, I'm thinking of getting him something similar this year for Christmas. What do you think?

Thanks, Ladies. Have a great day!

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J.B.

answers from Houston on

Hey Theresa, My wife held onto her first wedding ring which has a beautiful diamond just in a gold somewhat outdated setting. She wanted to hold onto it since it was from her daughters father but didn't want it sitting in a jewelry box. Last year (with the wifes approval) I took the ring to a jewelry store and picked a new setting in white gold to have the diamond placed in for her to wear as an everyday ring. Now when she hands it over to her daughter it will include something from Mom, Dad and Step-dad. We thought it was as good idea.

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R.D.

answers from Richmond on

I want to get my husband, not this year but eventually, one of those tough looking link bracelets with his initials or name engraved on it.

Like this:

http://www.thingsremembered.com/product/Recipient/Him/Men...

$30, plus a fee for engraving I believe... I think it's awesome!

Don't feel bad that if he wears it. Think of all the poor schmucks walking around with exes names tattooed on them, LOL!!

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B.C.

answers from Los Angeles on

T. N. its good for you that you have a husband so intune to your feelings he would do that on just you're mentioning it.

I would not give him something like what he quit wearing. I'd make it enough different that he wouldn't associate your gift to what he took off. But if he was that sensitive to your feelings, I'm sure that what ever you gave him, he would delight in getting from a loving wife.

Congratulations on having such a special, loving relationship with your husband.

Good luck to you and yours.

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C.O.

answers from Washington DC on

aaawwww... how very nice of you!!

What a great W. you are for noticing. How nice of him to take it off when you voiced your opinion on it - not for the religious aspect but for the GF aspect - and not saying another word about it - you have a GREAT man!!!

Go shop! TODAY!!!

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D.B.

answers from Charlotte on

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S.H.

answers from St. Louis on

what if the two of you picked out a design together & both of you wore matching necklaces? Share with him how you feel about the other one....& move forward together.

& honestly, I think your gift idea is wonderful. Great job!

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G.T.

answers from Redding on

Sounds like a thoughtful and good idea to me.
Now you can CROSS that one off your list :)

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R.J.

answers from Seattle on

I think that's a GREAT idea.

And what a sweetheart you're married to!

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M.B.

answers from Washington DC on

I think that is a GREAT idea!

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L.C.

answers from Dover on

I think it is a great idea.

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J.B.

answers from Houston on

Don't feel bad! I got rid of a cat my ex-boyfriend gave me bc my now husband wasn't too keen on me having him, he didn't ask me to get rid of the cat, but I did. The cat lives with my mom and has a great life :D So I am sure he was happy to oblige. But I think getting him a nice cross necklace is a great idea. I think he will like it and now won't ever have to worry over taking it off ;)

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J.L.

answers from Chicago on

I think your idea is fantastic. Go for it...perhaps he'll let you have the old one from the former GF and you can trade it in cash for Gold?? Then its Ba bye to the memory of it. :)

I got my husband's blessing a few years back when I found his gold wedding band from his first marriage...Obviously he wasn't wearing it but it bothered me he still had it...I sold that darn thing on Ebay :)

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A.M.

answers from Kansas City on

I think it's a great idea.

I have a really expensive watch that an old BF gave me. I would love to wear it again but I know it would hurt my husband to see me wearing it. So it just sits there in drawer, lonely and beautiful. (change to include) I don't want to wear because of who it came from, I want to wear it because it was truely a beautiful watch.

But I do think your idea is great...maybe get something engraved on it...

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F.H.

answers from Phoenix on

What a great hubby you have for doing that for you! I answered some other questions since the topic has come up. We are getting rid of things we had with our ex's. I just sold his ex's coffee tables and used the money to get new ones (you prob saw that on fb!!). I think its a GREAT idea for you to get him a cross! My hubby wore the Superman emblem on a chain, had it for YEARS. Although it wasn't from his ex, he bought it for himself, he hinted at me that he wanted something "new". So last year I bought him a shield with a cross and bible verse on the back. He wears that now and loves it. So yes, start shopping now! =)

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M.W.

answers from San Francisco on

You are a good woman...and you have a good man! I think the idea is wonderful and will make a very special Christmas gift.

Good luck and best wishes at having a wonderful Christmas together...it will be special!

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L.U.

answers from Seattle on

I had to laugh when I read Rachel D.'s response since my husband DID have a woman's name tattooed on him. Had to get that bad boy covered up!
I think a nice new necklace from you is a great idea.

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☆.A.

answers from Pittsburgh on

Great idea! Go for it.

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