Can't Get My Son Out of Pull-up

My 9 and 5 year old boys and 4 year old girl wear goodnights everynight. My 9 year old wakes up everymorning soaked, even after I wake him at midnight to have him go. (He is such a sound sleeper though, he has sleepwalked, sleep talked and so on with out remembering it in the moring.) My 5 yo wakes up most mornings wet as well. My daughter is dry about 80% of the time. My 11 year old wore goodnights until he was 8.
I really don't have any advice, except they will evnetually grow out of it. And hang in there!

Hi M., My daughter wore pull-ups at night until she was over 5. When she was 4 the pediatritian told me not to worry about it until she's 5. When she was still wearing them at 5 she said there is a small percentage of bladders that don't mature until the child is 7. It does help some to limit, not deny, drinks after dinner. Also when he does have to go during the day, if he can hold it a couple of minutes before going and stopping and starting when he does go strenghens the muscle. Don't be too concened. He'll eventially get out of them. Hope this helps. Barb B.

M.,
I would just leave him in he Pull Up until he has some dry nights in a row--whenever that may be. I also agree with waking him to go before you go to bed. That may help some. The is a new product called UnderJams that look more like underwear that he may like. www.underjams.com will send you a free sample. Good luck!

My daughter didn't have exactly the same problem. She would just have accidents. We started waking her up before we went to bed..about 11 pm or 12 am....Having her go one more time seemed to help the situation. Maybe you could wake him up before you and your husband go to bed and then once again around 2 am.

Hi M.,

My daughter has just turned 4 and was in a pull up at night until about 6months ago (even though she was potty trained during the day from 20months). We tried a couple of times but she would do exactly as you son. One day she just started waking up when she needed to go (still we have the odd night when she is so tired). We have her go at bedtime and then we pick her up and sit her on potty when we go to bed around 10. This seems to work for her.
Good luck but personally I would not sweat it all the advice I received was to wait until she showed signs of readiness.

T.

My oldest was in a pull-up at night until he was 5, my second son never had a night time accident and our third wore one for about 2 weeks. Each child is different, some kids are more prone to bed-wetting.
My cousin's daughter is 10 and has to wear the night-times because of her bed-wetting. My other cousin wakes her son at night to have him go to the bathroom.

I agree totally with Lisa W. and with sons 16 and 13 I can attest that they do grow out of it; but not stressing about it was one of the best things I ever did. I have always worked fulltime and changing beds in the middle of the night was not on my agenda in terms of sleep deprivation. The oldest was potty trained at 3 during the day but in pull-ups at night until 8 at least(and I am also here to say that as a big a deal as it is at the moment, you actually forget these things....) When we finally realized that he was dry most mornings we just stopped using them. The second never used them...so who knows...I really think each child is different and it's more how their body works than what you can teach (force?) them on this issue.

I haven't had this problem personally,but my neice needed pullups or even a diaper at night,until she was at least 6.Her bladder just wasn't able to hold it in at night.My sister tried limiting drinks in the evening and waking her up around 11pm to go,but nothing worked.Talk to your doc for suggestions,but he might need time.

I was going to say the same thing that Jen T. said. Don't let him have anything to drink an hour before bedtime and then make him at least try to go right before bed. We did that with my daughter and it worked like a charm. She only wore pull-ups at night for about a week after we potty trained her during the day. She's typically a deep sleeper, but some nights she does wake up to pee at 2 in the morning. Good luck.

I have a 9 year old son who wears good nights every night. There are many children who have this problem. I wake my son up every night about 3 hours after he goes to sleep to go, if I don.t he will soak through and I have to change the sheets.
In the morning my son does not remember I woke him.

The doctor says that this will pass.

I hope this helps you.

Let him where pull-ups at night until he stops wetting. Every child is different and MANY continue to wet at night for quite some time. For example, I was not reliable until I was about 12. My first son wore pull-ups until about the same time - but my second NEVER wore them and trained himself at 22 months. Instead of worrying about the fact that your son is still wearing them, be thankful that we have pull-ups now. They make late bedwetting a very discreet problem for a child. They can still have sleepovers and their friends never needs to know. Unlike when I was a kid and there were no helps for a kid like that. He will grow out of wetting when he is ready. Don't worry about it too much.

M.,
Don't know if you are already trying this, but my first (my daughter)was easier than I thought. I was worried about the night thing, thinking how in the world do I know when she is ready to go without a pullup at night. She would wake up most of the time dry, but there would be maybe one morning or two out of the week when she was wet. That went on for about a week or two and I realized that I needed to just try without the pullup. I made sure that she didn't drink anything 45min-hour before bed, I was able to shorten this a few days after going without a pullup. Made her pee RIGHT before bed (and never took I don't have to go for an answer, would make her at least try) She too, is a deep sleeper, but I put a water proof mattress on her bed and then let her go to bed. From that night on she never had an accident. And she never woke up to pee in the middle of the night. Its like her body just knew not to go.
I would say that your son is a little set back because of getting used to a pullup for a little longer than usual, but it'll work out. I'd just make sure that he isn't drinking anything an hour before bed, get him to pee before bed (if he can) and worst case scenario wake him up to pee when you go to bed. If it takes a couple of wet nights I think that his body will eventually learn.
I will say though, I'm in the process of potty training my son during the day and boys pee a lot more aften than girls. I think that their bladders are smaller and therefore they pee more often and not as much at a time. I'm finding my son drinks that same as my daughter but he is peeing 80 times a day it feels like, were she was a piece of cake to potty train! Good luck and I'm sure it will come along. If it doesn't then I would check with your doctor again to see if maybe there is something else you can do in case his bladder is still relaxing too much at night. Jennifer