Okay, this is mostly just for fun. I've been down this road before, many times. So the mom that dropped her child off, without getting out of her SUV, leaving him without paying her childcare bill....later saying she thought she was paid up... THEN, emailing saying she's in the hospital... WELL... The child was here all night, mom told me what hospital she was in and they have no record. I've called 3 area hospitals and still don't know where she is. I called the boys father. He didn't know anything and said he would pick him up.
The JOYS of daycare. And as you can guess...I've not seen the assistant that is supposed to be bringing money around.
I'll feel bad if I find out she's in some hospital I haven't checked. But what I didn't say yesterday is that I had been dreaming all night Sunday night about her situation ending. In my dream, the business she's supposed to be getting off the ground was a fraud.
Forgot to add:
The child was picked up just a bit ago by dad. He told me more than I EVER wanted to know. He also told me they are NOT divorced which I did not know. So he's on the way to pick up the other child from school....bad news. It's going to get ugly.
Deb, I don't know if it's a law in Missouri. I heard it is in Kansas. But there is a difference between a law and a regulation. In Missouri, it's okay to have 4 kids that are unrelated, plus our own kids and that's at any one time. So I run 2 shifts, 3 when I can get a 3rd shift client. The regulated places may have to adhere to a reg of 10 hours and no more. But those of us that are unlicensed don't have to. Maybe it's changed. But back when I was licensed, my representative knew that I had kids for days on end and she licensed me for 24/7. So I tend to think it's not really a rule here. What else are people supposed to do when they go out of town on business? I've had kids for up to 2 weeks while parents were in Hong Kong, the Netherlands, Korea for 4 days, and so many places, I forget. As long as I know where the parents are, how to reach a grandparent for emergencies, I'm happy to do it.
Dawn & everyone.. I DID get the 400 for the first 2 weeks. What I am out now is this weeks $100, and the client. That really bites because her weekend excursions have kept me afloat most of the year with groceries, extra utility payments etc. BUT, GOD KNOWS what I need. He is the source. I know that. But I don't too. Ya know? I don't know how to get that down on the inside of me once and for all. He's cared for me all my life. So why do I worry and doubt when I know it's wrong?
Yes, I called the dad and right now I only have the little one. I don't know where the brothers are....likely at home in their own bed. As for the state.... THAT is a JOKE.
The state of missouri told me once a long time ago that because I am open 24 hours per day, they will NEVER consider it abandonment. I had a boy with me for 4 days when I could not find either parent and grandma would not come. She showed up on day 5 and I kicked her out on the spot.
She lied.
There's a shocker.
Why didn't the Dad take the little one, too?
Look - there's nothing you can fix here.
But you can end it and say 'No more'.
That is true, she has left her child with a competent care giver and the police or state would not come get the child unless there were dire circumstances.
But I can guarantee that I would be on the phone to my licensing worker and discussing with them the person in child welfare I should be talking to. This is not right, she is taking advantage. If you lock your door until the adult is knocking then she has to get out. Kids cannot legally sign themselves in, until she signs that child in he/she is not legally there, or that's what you tell the parent.
Goes something like this:
"What do you mean where's Johhny? Johnny didn't come to the center today...no, I don't have your signature here on the daily check in log, look for yourself...he's not legally here unless you sign him in, sorry, I guess you can look around outside and see if you can find him playing, I certainly hope he didn't get in the street, maybe tomorrow you can make sure he gets in the building and signed in...". Of course he's in a classroom somewhere but the mom needs a good scare.
Four days!?! You had a kid for FOUR days? I am having a heart attack just thinking about it. I have to say, I think it's probably time to kick em out. I used to call my daycare lady if I was going to be more than five MINUTES late, let alone ALL night (which by the way I would NEVER do) Uggghh. I can not believe some people!
My day care lady kicked out one person because they couldn't deal with their twins so they would drop them off super early and leave them late. So basically the only time these people had their kids was when they were sleeping at night. It was awful! Once they called her at 430 in the morning and asked if she was up, when she said "Well I am now." They said, "Good the kids woke up early and we are in your drive way" ! Seriously, they wanted nothing to do with raising their own kids. It just makes me sick.
Sorry you are dealing with it. I know my old day care lady took a long time to boot them because she really loved the kids, and it was hard on her. My daughter was her first and she started watching her when she was only 7 weeks old. When we got a job opportunity to come to Florida and told her she bawled. :) I think I almost felt worse for taking Raven from her than my own mom! lol
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S.L.M.,
I've said it before on this board and I'll say it again: some people shouldn't be allowed to breed.
I shudder to think what would happen to many of the kids in your care if you were not there.
Find out FACTS for now.
Then let her know what they owe you.
There is more going on than you're aware of right now.
Hopefully, the truth will be revealed.
Wow. Cant wait to hear the end of this one. I guess it could go either way.
I would end my arrangement with this woman. She is clearly taking advantge and has decided that she wants to opt out of parenting. At the very least, I would consider telling her you have closed your 24 hour services FOR HER. Whether you are open 24 hours or not, you still are the one who decides who you provide what services to.
I agree with OneAndDone. Some people just shouldn't be allowed to breed.
I said it yesterday! I think you're being taken for a sucker!
Did you ever contact the father like you said you were going to? Oh I see you did. If this continues, I'd contact the state. Obviously, those kids can't live with you forever, and god knows what the mother's really out doing.
OMG - would the state consider it abandonment if one of these children were left for days with you and there was NO payment?? I know you'd have had this little one at least like that if they had lived in your area and knew of you! (I'm pretty sure they left at daycare here way more hours than supposed to...). How come CPS or such doesn't say anything when child is there more than 10 hrs per day -or is that not a law there?
Well, I think some moms here "called" this yesterday.
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Some people have the impression that rules never apply to them. Sadly they will tell you a lie when the truth would have served their purpose better. This Mom is taking advantage of you because she can. You have been nice by not confronting her but instead of appreciating it they will take the lies to another level!
She is lucky you have not called CPS since the children have basically been abandoned. She left them with you but has not paid for your services.
Everyone goes through bad times but some people have never learned that being honest with others is the way to go!
I am sorry that happened to you. I hope the mom isn't dead somewhere.
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