Camouflaging Pregnancy Belly Until End of First Trimester

i understand your hesitation to tell people, but really, if you were to lose this one (god forbid), would no one knowing make you feel any better? maybe you're bigger early for a reason, maybe this is this little one's way of saying I'M HERE! maybe you could tell just a few people and ask them to keep it quiet, because of your fears. like the people you're around most. that might lighten your load. it sounds like you're stressing yourself out over NOT telling people, and "hiding" it, which can't be good. concentrate on NOT stressing out, and just let things happen. that's my advice anyway, and i can't tell you what to do. but good luck, you're almost there.

T.,
I've lost 3 babies. I know how terrible it feels to have people ask about the baby and to have to give the bad news. It's rough. But trust me, not telling anyone isn't really any better. If it happens you will feel just as crushed. I think you need to embrace this baby and allow yourself some more of the excitement. You can take comfort in the fact that it's rare to lose a baby that late. I was 13 weeks 2 of the times I lost a baby. So I get it. BUT, the chances are really good this baby is a keeper! Try and enjoy this time and the next 3 weeks will pass quickly.

Suzi

The people who love you, grieved with you, so let them be happy with you as well. That is what family and friends do with one another, dont lock them out now.

T., I understand your wanting to keep the happy news to yourself for a little while longer, however it sounds like your little bundle of joy wants the world to know!! You're nearly there, maybe you can hope for a few more weeks of colder weather so that big warm sweatshirts are needed.

Congratulations! M.

I bought a bunch of those "swing" tops/dresses from old navy. They are in style and they are not maternity. If people would ever ask, I would say, no I'm not pregnant, just fat! They wouldn't ask again! Good luck, I'm hope this one results in a healthy baby.

I can totally understand you wanting to keep things "hush hush" for a couple more weeks and to tell you the truth, those who know you probably already know your "status" and are just respecting you by not saying anything. I had a good friend in your shoes a couple years ago, and it was obvious she was showing early, but didn't want to announce it until it was her second tri (she had told everyone the day she had a positive preg. test the last time, then miscarried shortly after). When she did tell us, we were overjoyed, and she smiled and said, "But you knew already, didn't you..." and I just smiled and told her she looked wonderful.
Ok...that said...I LOVED my bella band. I didn't find them until the END of my preg when my scrub pants at work kept falling off, but I swear, I'll be pulling them out at the start next time I get preg! They are basically a stretchy "band" of material that you can put under or over the waist of your pants and look just like a "layered t-shirt", but will help hold your pants up if you need to keep them unbuttoned, or even if you switch to maternity pants, no one will be the wiser! Just tell them you're going for the "layered look" that is so in style now!
I'm so sorry for your previous loss and wish you only the best with your new bundle!

I don't have any suggestions but wanted to let you know that I said a prayer for you and your baby. May God bless you with a great pregnancy. Good luck and God Bless.

I was watching a TV special about a movie star that was starring in a sitcom and she became pregnant but her character wasn't. They used hooded sweatshirts and jackets alot and she wore a lot of black because black hides more. My cousin hid her pregnancy for awhile too and hooded sweatshirts worked really well because you can put your hands in the front pocket. You will only have to hide it for about two more weeks. Thats all I could come up with. Good Luck and Congratulations!!

T.,
They make lots of the longer baby doll type tops. My little guy is almost two and I still need to lose a few and I wear a lot of the bigger tops and no one is walking up to me and asking me if I am pregnant = )

Even if someone asks it is ok to tell them you aren't, I have a few friends that kept pregnancies mum even to family until they were past the first trimester!

Congratulations
I will keep you in my prayers!
B.

Hey there...sorry to hear of your miscarriage. We had 2 and I know how hard it can be. We opted not to tell many people also but I will say it was just as hard because no one knew we were grieving after the miscarriages so it's hard to say whether it is better to tell or not...guess it depends on the person. We waited until we heard the heartbeat with our current pregnancy to announce (I am 10 weeks too!) and I am definitely showing more this time as my oldest is just 7 1/2 months old. I just tried to camouflage as best I could and not worry. You and I are lucky that we are home most of the time! I agree with another post-you probably notice your shape changing more than others. Even if they do notice, most people have enough sense not to say anything. Just do your best and don't worry about it-enjoy your pregnancy!

T., I have never gone through what you have, so I cannot even imagine how it must hurt. I have SO many friends who have gone through what you have... I just wanted to send you good wishes and prayers. Those friends have gone on to have (numerous LOL) babies. People just don't realize HOW common miscarriage is...a lot of women blame themselves for something out of their control. I wish you well and much much joy with your little one! God Bless you and your family!

Hi T.,

I was that way my third pregnancy too. Looked 4 months along at only 10 weeks! Drove me crazy cause people thought I was further along than I was.

I used to always wear my husbands large dark-colored hooded sweatshirts. I agree with the post before me about the hooded sweatshirts, they really do hide a lot.

S.

I completly hear you. I am about 8 weeks and going through the same thing. I have tried to get all of the long and loose styles that have lots of gathers at the top and hang loose. This is my first baby and I am already looking like I have a beer gut. Any other advice would be appreciated. Good luck with your pregnancy. My sisters tell me to just buy a bigger size until you need the maternity wear.

Try bella bands. They hold every thing together and no one will notice.

I completely understand your desire to keep it quiet. If I were to have a miscarriage, I would prefer to tell my parents and maybe one or two very close friends after the fact when I'm ready to talk about it. I made my husband keep the secret with our first pregnancy until I was 8 weeks, and then we only told our families and best friends. I waited til after the first trimester to tell everyone else. God bless!

I wanted to "hide" my pregnancy for a while just so my co-workers wouldn't freak out! I found that many of the dresses are great for that purpose... they tie right under the bust line and float away from the body. You could hide anything under there, and the dresses still look great!

Check out the discount racks at JCPenney, TJ Maxx, or Target for shirts like that, too.

Baggy t-shirts, sweaters, jackets, etc. Might also want to try a Bella Band or something similar (Target sells a generic brand. Here's what it looks like: http://www.amazon.com/exec/obidos/ASIN/B001710F9C/booksto... It helps to hold up your pants in that weird in between stage of rubberbands/regular pants/maternity pants, and another bonus is that it provides a little extra belly support - you can even use it after delivery.

Other than that, I'm not sure what to suggest. Try to remember that you probably feel like you look bigger than you really do. If others notice, they might not say anything, thinking you're just bloated or gaining a few lbs (I hate that stage of pregnancy!).

Congratulations on your pregnancy!

Try the 'Belly Band' - it's like a good ole tube top, but for your belly. It'll let you leave your pants unbutton/unzipped as your tummy expands, but it's all covered up. Kind of has a layered t-shirt look.