Call Me Granny

Let it go. It's not necessary that they all call you the same thing. My kids call one of their grandfathers "Papa," but their cousins call him "Grandpa." No biggy. He loves all his grandkids, and they love him.

This is not something to get worked up over. Unless they are calling you something that is insulting. That would not be ok.

Let them decide what they would like to call you. Allowing that will do more to help you get to know eachother and blend families that insisting they all call you something that their parents are clearly not comfortable with.

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A rarity, I had to read ahead because something doesn't "fit" with this question.

I'm sorry you felt the need to change your post.

You need to COMMUNICATE with your husband and family. His children don't want their children calling you Granny - why not ask them what THEY WANT their children to call you and then tell them what you would be comfortable with.

Why make so much drama out of this when simple communication will suffice?

LOVE Granabel!!

Added....why did you change your post if you want honest feedback?

You changed your post and name. What gives?

What's wrong with GranAbal? It's cute and different and solves the problem. It's a "grandmother" name but incorporates what the parents want too. It seems silly for anyone to think about this too much. They should let you be called what you want to be called but since they're not insisting on using your first name, you should go along with that. If all 3 of his kids feel this way, there may be a reason. I'd go with the very appropriate compromise and not worry about it anymore.

I married into three grandkids, but I have yet to actually meet them as they live in another state. My husband's ex lives there as well and they see her often.
I have spoken to the oldest on the phone, and she calls me Grandma. In fact, she asked me if I was ok with her calling me that. I told her to call me whatever she felt comfortable calling me. I don't know what name the other two have decided on for me, and I will go with whatever they are comfortable with.

I understand the whole remarriage with grown children. My dad remarried after my mother died. None of my kids knew my mom, they only know my dad's current wife.

All the grand kids hers and his (including mine call her the same grandmother name)...she chose an ethic one from her heritage. Fine with me.

I am not sure why your husband's children don't want their kids to call you Granny. You are a "granny" and are acting as one to their children.

Have your husband ask them why they are so apposed to having their kids call you that.

I like Granabelle that is cute too....but they can all be on the same page with a simple granny.

This confuses me as well...good luck...hopefully they will be open to the idea.

I don't really follow the question. Wasn't it longer before? I read it earlier and couldn't think of what to say, because I see this as a non-issue. If it bothers you, communicate this to the people involved and c-o-m-p-o-m-I-s-e. There must be a solution that works for all of you. I don't think we as moms can tell you what name that would be.

My first name gets shortened to all kinds of nic names over the years and different people call me different things. I'm the kind of person who isn't really bothered by that. If you're the type of person who will get uptight over what grandkids call you, tell them this. Give them options - let them choose from which ones you provide if you don't like their suggestion.

Honestly - you want one thing, they want something else. You sort if out by being open and honest. If there are deep seated emotions here (on either side) why certain names are not acceptable to you - just say so. You're grown ups.

Good luck :)

what about having all call you Nana and Poppa or Oma amnd Opa? or look into your ancestory and find what they called their grandparents back in the day
here is a site that lists 20 different versions of grandma and grandpa
http://www.grandparents.com/family-and-relationships/gran...
i hope you find one you like

I like the name GranAbal, or Granabelle, too. It can be shortened to Gran when the kids get older, and Gran would be fine, in my opinion.

It's never easy with blended families.

I have my daughter call my step father grandpa (insert name here) and my step mother grandma (insert name here). Also, my daughter only calls my husbands mom grandma, she calls my mother grandma (insert name here) since she has three grandmothers (my mom, hubby's mom and my step mom) and I refer to the grandpas with the name as well ( both biological grandpas have passed on).

Sorry that your step children are having a hard time with this, I hope that in the future they will be more accepting of you as a part of the family.

I don't believe in the step-grandparent thing. I have 2 step sons who both call me by my first name, however, they have three children between them (another on the way!) and I am Grandma to all of them. The oldest's son's baby momma started out trying to figure out another name for me because her stepfather is not called Grandpa; he is called Stempie (kind of a mingling of step and grandpa). I told her she could call me anything she wants, but to the children I'm grandma. She started feeling a bit "on the outside" because HER child was the only one not calling me grandma. By the end of year one, I was grandma to her as well.

I really feel that all this step stuff causes riffs in families that are not necessary. Heck, all of the grandma's could be called grandma. When everyone is together, the kids can differentiate by saying "Grandma Sally" or whatever. One of my granddaughter's calls her other grandma "mimi" I've heard other grandmothers referred to by that name. Maybe you an consider that?

well, it's moot at this point, but i gather from the responses that there was 'what granny name to use' drama.

there are so many cute ones. surely there are one or two that work for everyone.

i don't care what my future grands call me (making the reasonable assumption it won't be something stupid or rude.)
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I despise the name granny and if my grand kids called me that I'd slap them...lol. I don't want to be called N./nana either.

I think you should get to be called what you want to be called. If one of our other grandparents wanted to be called granny I'd tell the kids to be polite and call them that but I'd hate it and always call them by their given name when referring to them.

The kids should respect you and call you what you want to be called. It's like the ONLY name we get to pick for yourselves, right?

If they refuse then don't answer when they speak to you. Keep your head turned away and ignore them. If they come up and grab you and start speaking to you and call you that tell them "Honey, my grandma name is XXXXXX, please be nice and use the right name".

This, in my family, would absolutely fall on the parents to teach the kids to refer to me by grandma. If they told the kids they can call me anything and that granny wasn't important then I'd have issues with that parent and tell them off. Then I'd forget what their name was and call them an old fashioned ugly name the rest of the time or until they figured out what my name was.