Bye Bye Binky

As a mom of five who all loved their binkies, I would have to agree with Stephanie on this one give it back and see what happens. I broke my last 4 kids of their binkies early after my oldest was attached and it was so hard to break her of it, BUT I think if its just a nap thing or bedtime thing it's fine. As long as she isn't trying to talk with it in I don't see any issues. Good luck and I hope you both get some sleep soon. Always remember you are her mother and deep down you know whats right for you and her.

Perhaps she's telling you that she's not ready, or able, to soothe herself without her pacifier. Although I would rarely advise a parent to back track, I'm wondering if this isn't an exception to that rule. Give her pacifier back and see if her sleep patterns return to normal.

I was never in any rush to break my sons of their pacifier. By 2-3, we were down to naps and bedtime only. With my youngest, by the time he was 3, it was bedtime only and we'd simply put it on the end table part of his crib/dresser combo. He'd stand up, suck on it for about 10 seconds, lie down and go right to sleep. If he woke up in the middle of the night, he'd stand up, suck for another ten seconds and go right back to sleep. (We would hear this over the monitor because the monitor was right by the pacifier.) It was truly the most bizarre thing I'd ever witnessed. With both my kids, they gave it up on their own by 4. At 12 and 16, they continue to be excellent sleepers.

I'm sure you had a good reason for your 2 year/end the pacifier decision but, in light of the lack of sleep and all the attendant issues that go with that, it may be worth reconsidering that decision.

Good luck.

Give her back the binky. Save yourself!!

We bribed our DD with a lolipop if she took a nap without her binky. We also cut the binky and gave it to her to try. She quickly decided on her own that she no longer wanted it because it didn't work. Best wishes.

If her binky is used ONLY for sleeping/naps... I really don't see the 'harm' in it.
And it is not going to be used much, if its only for sleep/naps.

Either that, or maybe she adopts sucking her thumb?
That's what I did when I was a child.... and that's a harder habit to stop.

all the best,
Susan

Most kids go through a phase like this and her not having the binky has nothing to do with it so please DON'T give it back!! You'll only make it harder on both of you when you try to take it away again.

My son would lie away in his bed at night and come up with every excuse to stay away-pee, drink, blanket, snuggle, etc. I just made sure all of his needs were taken care of before bed and he had to stay there and be quiet. He looks at book, plays with a few cars but stays in bed and falls asleep within a few minutes.

I also started calling naps quiet time when the word nap would cause a melt down. I would tell him he had to lay in his bed for quiet time (again with a book or small toy) and more than likely he would fall asleep within a few minutes as well.

I just never made a big deal out of bed time. Kept it matter of fact like and never had too many issue that lasted for very long.

Good luck!!
S.

okay i've had three kids, so i'm a lot mellower than i was with no.1. I'd give her the binky back until she is 3 and try again. or try to get her so suck her thumb - but that is a lot harder to break - can't take it away and they suck off hot sauce - my elder daughter, bless her, even sucked off the hot sauce for her little sister - talk about acts of mercy!

Give it back and slowly wean her. Only let her have it for sleep or in the car and for sleep or whatever and then only at night, etc. Chances are she'll grow out of the urge around age 3.