Last year my son had a problem with another child who was always hitting him. They are both in 2nd grade now and this other child hit my son in the head yesterday. My husband came home and told my son to hit this other kid as hard as he can today at school, and the bullying will stop. And hubby is going to call the school and get all mad at the NEW principal. I am very uncomfortable about all of this. One of the reasons for my discomfort is I work there, on the playground and in the lunch room. This new principal is also my new boss. Can someone please give me advise. And be nice? :)
Ok, well looks like people enjoy being mean to one another here. I will no longer be asking for help. Oh well, I tried. BTW, I do not think violence is ever the answer. If you are actually defending yourself it is a smart thing to do. But to strike a child as hard as you can at 7 years old is just ridiculous in my opinion. It just makes him the same as the other child. IMO.
I have never been in your situation but it sounds like the bully may be abused in his own home and therefore repeats the behavior at school. I'm not trying to excuse his behavior-your son has every right to feel safe at school. I would speak with the teacher and principal. I'm wondering if you should speak with the bully's parents or will the teacher do that? good luck to you and your boy:)
i say let your husband handle it. your son is lucky to have a man in his life to teach him how to be a man. it is more important that your son learn to take care of himself than for you to feel comfortable and well liked around your boss. your husband is right.
Have you spoken to the teacher? I think you should make that person aware this has been a problem before so they can respond appropriately. Did the other child get sent to the office? These incidents should be documented. I am a teacher and my kids attend my school too. I still think you have the right as a parent to talk to the principal and voice your concerns. The calmer and more rational you are when you speak to him/her, the more likely they will be to take you seriously. Good luck! Your child deserves to feel safe at school.
Dear C.:
Being that you work at the same school, and instead of having your husband go "make a scene" & to avoid making you uncomfortable, why don't you talk with the principal & bring this other kid & your son to talk to them both?
You have all the right to make complaint about this incident as the person involved is your son. You husband would only be teaching your son vengeance, instead of dealing with things rationally.
Hope everything gets solved.
D.
