Bringing up Problems Without a Fight

It's hard to know what's going on in a classroom based on reports from little kids, but I don't blame you for wanting to get to the bottom of it to be on the safe side. You might schedule an appointment with the principal, and tell her that you don't want to make the teacher defensive, but you do want to feel more confident about the situation. Ask her if she would mind observing in the classroom and getting back to you. That way you don't have to do it. I am always nervous about a teacher consciously or subconsciously taking their frustrations out on the child of the parent who is annoying them, which is why I suggest you ask the principal to do the observation. Let us know what happens!

S.

That is sad that the teacher is being defensive. She may not be aware that the behavior is happening.
I would definately not take your child out of school if he is learning and loves it. I would talk to your child about what is happening and encourage him to tell the teacher when it happens that way she can deal with the behavior in her room. Teach him to say "Stop that!" to the person that is bothering him and then tell the teacher. Role play and practice it at home.

Hi S.! I would say that you should go to her supervisor or the head of the Headstart. The teacher seems awfully defensive! Do you think that there would be a reason that your son would not be telling the truth about this?! I personally wouldn't pull him out, maybe see if there is another class, maybe you could go and look in on the class?! Good Luck and keep us posted, when you go talk to the supervisor!!

go above her head i had to do that when my 2 older kids were in headstart and if that don't work go even higher till something does work and if still no progress then think about switching
good luck

I would agree with the other moms. i would definately be going over that teachers head to the next in command whether it is the principal of the school or if the teacher is the principal go to the director of the school and so on.

good luck

Dont take him out of Head start because of Bullies.. Dont make the mistake of showing him if your bullied around you can just quite school.. My Niece was in headstart and its a wonderful program for the children getting ready to start kindergarten.. I would take the issue to the principal. Maybe even changing teachers because if its anything like what my niece went through in headstart, her headstart teacher is her kindgergarten teacher. Either The teacher is acutually not seeing whats going on or she is and is washing her hands of it since its head start.. Talk with the principal .

I agree, go to the principal!

My daughter is 5 years old and has a habit of exagerating what goes on in her daycare/school. So before you charge into the school's office, make sure you know exactly what was done and by whom so that you're not blowing something out of proportion. But if you're secure in what your child is telling you, then move that info on up the food chain to get it resolved!

I know the headstart my daughter goes to she has 3 teachers in her class, (well 1 teacher and 2 paras). I know my daughter was complaining about a boy picking on her and my husband brought it to the teachers attention, the teacher said she didn't see anything like that happening and reassured us that it would have been taken care of. I don't believe that my child would lie to me so I sat my daughter down and talked to her and she said it was one of the paras that saw this boy do this. It might be the same situation with your son. If it doesn't get resolved though I would definatly try to get him in another classroom. I know how bad it can be with the bullying, my daughter didn't want to go back to school because of this kid, but my husband and I talked to her and her teacher and now she is loving school and not complaining of this little boy picking on her anymore.

I had this problem but at a home daycare. My son kept coming home and saying that kids were biting and hitting him. When I brought it up to the teacher she told me that my son bites himself...well could be true because I saw him do that once when we were talking about how it was wrong. A few weeks later he had a bite that went through his t-shirt and sweatshit and was bleeding. It was on the back of his arm where he clearly could not reach. When I brought it up she said he did it himself. THis was a really nice daycare where my son was speaking Spanish and French and was using sign language. Even though I loved all the stuff he was learning,I felt I had to pull him out. I would do what some of the others said and stand outside the door and watch. I do that at my son's school that he goes to now, I don't suspect anything but you never know when someone is putting on a show.
J.