Dear K.:
I'm sorry to hear your biopsy found cancer. I was in your shoes not too long ago. I had a lumpectomy in late 2007, chemo for 16 weeks after that, radiation, Herceptin for a year and am now on hormone therapy, Femara, so I'm kind of an overachiever and have tried it all!
First off, have the doctor explain ALL your options. Ask if they perform a sentinel node biopsy. What that means is they will see what's your main draining node in your armpit and biposy that. If it's clean, no more nodes are taken. Most people have between 2 and 4. If your nodes are clean you do NOT want them all removed!
If the surgeon says he/she simply removes all the nodes, regardless, RUN!!
You didn't ask for a doctor recommendation, but I'm going to give you the name of my surgeon because, frankly, all she does is breast surgery and I believe she's the best breast surgeon in northern Texas. Her name is Dr. L. Canavan. She has offices at Craig Ranch in Frisco and Baylor in Plano. Her number is ###-###-####.
Don't be afraid to talk to a couple of doctors. The same goes for the oncologist, if that's what you need. I fired my first radiologist and oncologist because we just could not work together. This is YOUR team and you have to be able to work with these people.
Also, for general information, such as types of tumors and therapies, go to the Komen website. It's a great starting place. Your surgeon should also give you a stack of reading material.
Hang in there. It does get better!
L. F., married to my best friend for 22 years, have 13-year-old daughter