A boy at my son's school (vpk)grabbed my son's head and hit it against the cement. Thank god my son is ok but what do I do now. I was told that they did talk to the boy. Do I talk to his mom? Why would this kid do something like that? I am going to worry so much until school is out in a month.
First, talk with the teacher and find out what (s)he knows about the situation. If this doesn't satisfy you talk with the director. you can ask to talk with the mother in the school office. You do need to know why this happened and be reassured that it won't happen again.
VPK is 4-5 year olds right? Well kids that age do not always have their emotions under control and they are not yet able to fully grasp the conceot of possibly SERIOUSLY injuring someone.
My DD almost strangled another child a few weeks ago - not out of anger or because they were fighting, but they were playing dogs and she had tied a "leash" around her neck. I felt terrible about did, so did DD once she understood that she did really hurt her friend and could have really, really injured her.... but as I said for many situations kids that age cannot anticipate consequences of such magnitude yet.
No, you do not talk to the mom. The school is not even supposed to tell you who the child is that did it, but I suppose your child can tell you.
Ask the teacher what they are doing to prevent any further incidences, are they monitoring this kid, is this a recurring issue or out of character... and stay in conversation with your son about the incident and how it is important that he notifies a teacher if someone threatens to harm him or bullies him.
In our case we were notified of the incident and at home we talked to our child about the danger of what she had done, about our expectations and rules and the school has also taken measures by no longer allowing kids to play "pets".
Good luck.
What exactly happened? I agree with others I'm picturing your son innocently walkig by and the other boy running up tackling him and then slamming his head in the concrete. What exactly went down? How did he get him in such a psotion? I'm glad he's ok, but my response would greatly difer based on what exaclty happened. As in if they were wrestling and pinning eachother down and the other boy did that, while wrong, I';d think he got carried away, but if your son was J. sitting and the kid ran up and did this for no reason I'd want M. kid out of his class and I'd also enroll my kid in karate or practice self defense and then yes I would tlak to the parents.
So I assume... there were witnesses to this????
If there were, then people can corroborate your son's incident.
This should then be handled by the school.
And THEY should talk to the parents. Not you.
And they should, be dishing out some kind of consequence.
It doesn't matter why the boy did this. The point is, he slammed your son's head against the cement and grabbed him.
THAT in itself, is wrongful behavior.
I would expect, the school to do MORE than just "talk" to the boy.
Document things.
Because it happened at school, I would let the teachers handle it as far as the parent's go. You should be able to get all the details of what happened in addition to their plan for preventing this type of behavior from recurring.
I would follow up on it to make sure the principal and teacher spoke to the kids parents, and they and the child understand that it is not acceptable.
This could have been a serious accident, but thank god your son is ok.
I would follow up on it to prevent future problems.
Goodness, I would find out exactly what happened. I'm pictured a little kid just walking up and slamming his head in the ground, and I'm sure it didn't happen like that. Not that I'm saying it's ever OK, because I'm certainly not!! However, there could have been many things going on. It could be much less violent and awful then you're thinking. The reason you want to find out what happened, is so your son can protect himself. If it happened after a certain exchange or something, your son can be taught to avoid this. You should already know WHY he did this, or at least what happened before. You need to ask the teachers. If you son had done something to upset the boy (I'm still not condoning what the boy did at all, but I also don't condone button pushing) he should be taught not to do that. In any case, I don't see what talking to the parents will accomplish. Talk with the teachers AND the school director and get to the bottom of the situation. Something more should have been done, then just talking to.
He did WHAT?! And this is in pre-k? The boy that did that should be kicked out. I'm sorry, but there is no excuse for that kind of behavior and I'm pretty sure if he was older and did that he would be expelled.
God Bless his parents because they've got a tough one on their hands.
I would express your concern to the teacher. I always tell them when I send my kids to school, I am relying 100% on THEM to keep my kids safe. It is part of their job. So I'd want to know how whatever issue that caused the physical attack got so out of hand that this could happen.
Oh I'm hot and it's not even my kid.
I'm glad he is okay!
I'd want the full story. Is this kid in your kids recess or classroom. I'd ask to be able to observe a rescess. They really cannot deny it be strong. See wht is going on. Might have been 2 boys messing around or something more serious. You need to see if there is a pattern
Uh, nooooo...I would not let it go at only the school level. I would make SURE the kids parents are notified. If it were my kids school, he would have been suspended for a day. That is EXTREMELY serious. I would also not just "assume" that he is ok. I would take him to the doc asap. ALL head injuries, no matter how small you think it is, should be checked out by a doc. Most head injuries can't be "seen". Good luck!
id do two things.. first make sure the teacher knows how concerned you are and youre not just thinking "oh boys will be boys" kinda thing.. let her know its a big deal to u and not just something to brush off and say well dont do that again.. second id want to talk to this kids mom or dad.. try not to be angry or hostile and stay calm(even though its hard-imean its not like he just hit your son or something a little more minor) i would just inform them of the situation and say how lucky u feel because your son couldve been seriously injured and your concerned it could happen again.. also say that u were told the teacher spoke to him about it but u feel as a parent its something they definatley need to address with him
What? I am so sorry.
I would talk to the teacher THEN the Director of the school.
That kid needs to be watched.
Also, I would speak to my son & tell him how to protect himself from this
child. First by watching out for this child (never being alone w/him, not
keeping his back to him in the playground, making sure of his whereabouts at all times).
Tell him if this child (or any child) ever hurts him physically he needs to immediately get the attention of an adult that works there. If one doesn't respond, go to another person.
I think it definitely needs to be brought to the attention of the people that work there.
Again, so sorry for your son. He does not need medical attention, I hope.
With out more details it is difficult to say what you should do. What is the nature of your son's relationship to/with this boy? Have other children had issues with this boy? Does he (the boy) have a history of inappropriate behavior? What did the school do to address the incident? Was there proper documentation of the incident? As for talking to the mother, unless there is a history, I do not believe taking matters into your own hands is advisable. As for the why, there may be a chance the boy doesn't even know why he did it. Even if he did have a reason, would it really matter? I doubt there is any reason anyone could give me that I would find acceptable for harming one of my children, especially at such a young age. I hope that the rest of the month is safe and uneventful.
With the kids being so young, there really isn't anything they can do other than talk to the child. The parents can punish at home, of course, but the school really has no way of disciplining a kindergartener other than talking to him/her.
Now when I was in elementary school, the principal would have pulled out his paddle and there would have been some spanking going on!
