L.A.
Hi M.
The first part makes me think way too early in the a.m. (as it is 6 when I decided to write ya)! Reason being is that I've been a dental assistant for 12+ yrs and 8+ has been in pediatrics...your description is something that I haven't seen but I do have expertise in the second question you posed. I have a now 5 year old and @ 2 ish he didn't want me to brush either. It is ok to give him a "bear hug" if need be because you are not hurting him, only helping him! Also remember if he is crying this will help with the mouth to be open to get in there! I had to do this with my son for several months until he learned that it was something that had to be done! L.