Birthday - Venting

I always think it is funny when someone asks you what you want then they don't like the answer :) What did he ask for if he really didn't want a genuine answer...

If its the thought, than his thought was what he wanted and not what you wanted. sounds like you need to have another heart-to-heart talk and try and make him understand. Alone time is very important for a Mommy.

Good Luck

Well, I think I am going to be opposite to other posts. I think it is really precious that your husband WANTS to take your son out and shop for you!!! Him saying its "boring" is man speak for "I really enjoy taking out son out to find something nice for you and don't want to give you just money because that is not thoughtful enough for me." I wouldn't care what I got, but it would warm my heart knowing hubby's heart is in the right place and is thinking of you and cares. Plus, he is setting a great example for your son about how to think of others and ways to put effort into showing he cares.

My birthday is a bigger deal for my kids than it is for me. They LOVE to shop with my husband and pick out things for me. They last thing I got was a pink Chicago Bears jersey followed up by pink Chicago Bears slippers. The boys think they are the greatest gifts ever. They LOVE to pick out a cake. It doesn't matter that none of it matters to me. The excitment the kids give my husband and me is what matters. If your son wants to shop with your husband let him.
Maybe you and your husband can get a sitter the next night and have dinner out alone.

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i would tell him to take your son shopping for a card and candies, and then, give you a gift certificate to buy teh big things. but i mean, at least he's getting you something. i haven't gotten presents on my birthday for a long time. i know i plan to take my fiance's sons shopping to buy them a present to give to their dad on his next birthday (i couldn't this time because we didn't have money)

Why don't you go out and shop, alone, and make a list of several things you would like? Then they can go out and shop from the list. This way, you all get to shop, and you're surprised with something you want! Make your list varied, so the money could be spent on one big thing or a few smaller things.

My husband is the worlds worst shopper. Unless I say I want this specific item at this store I HATE what he buys me everytime. One time he got me a mani pedi and I was so excited then I later found out my SIL suggested it and went to buy it! lol He finally stopped buying me presents and just gives me money! I feel you!

my husband loves to buy gifts and does the same thing. It annoys me because I will admit, I'm cheap. I hate wasting money and feel that is what he does with his surprise gifts. But it is the thought that counts, right?!

Instead of just giving him one thing, why not give him a list of several things? Why not tell him that you want a gift card to a spa? I think it's sweet that he wants to surprise you :) My husband is so NOT romantic. He likes to say "Get whatever you want." It's nice sometimes, but I really wish he'd put a little effort into it.

Here's an even better idea: While Daddy and son are out shopping for your present, get a book go to a coffee shop and just RELAX!

Circle thing in an ad and show them to him and tell him to take it with him shopping.

Make a compromise..
Ask for something you do want that is not terribly expensive and will not really matter what style they choose.. A large canvas carry all of this summer, A new Camp chair for the beach, a pair of house slippers, a frame that they promise to pose for you so you can take the picture..

Then take some money and announce one day, "I need to run some errands. You watch the baby." and then go shopping.

Also when other family members ask you what you want.. Tell every one of them you want to go shopping so could they give you a mall gift card, a visa gift card.. whatever works for you.. I do this for every occasion and my family loves it. I then send them a thank you note, telling them exactly what I purchased with the gift cards.

LOL! This will make a good laugh far into the future. My sisters and I always went shopping with my dad at christmas time to pick out my moms gifts. We were discussing last year some of the things we used to pick out for my mom. It was a good laugh because some of it was just stupid. My mom would always acted excited no matter what. Now she makes out a list for us. We still go shopping with my dad at xmas time but because of work schedules we don't always get to go together. At least he asked. Enjoy your day. Hopefully you will get to that shopping trip after all.

I have had this problem for years, so we solved it this way. I pick 3 or 4 or 5 things i would like, and the surprise is I don't know which one I'll get for my bday.

Ask him to shop with your son for some goodies, like magazines, chocolate, lotions, small stuff. Plus a gift cert for you so you can have some shopping time for yourself. Win - Win

I love that my husband gives me money and I am off for the day shopping and having lunch with girlfriends.

I could have written this but i wouldn't have been as nice as you. This drives me nuts to no end. because i have tried all the tricks and he still gets it wrong and there is no compromise because he is making it all about him not about you. Really, he should have realized that he could take your son to help pick out a card and some flowers while still giving you a gift card, but because it's about him, that option probably won't be acceptable. arrggg did i say it drives me nuts!!

Anyhow, I really hope your bday is great and I hope hubby has lots of other redeeming qualities!