Our son's cub scout leader sent a mass text about a meeting. One of the other mom's replied in text back to him for an invite for her son's birthday party. Would you attend the birthday party?
This mom used to go to our church, so we were kind of acquainted. When I got to the meeting she walked passed me and I said. “Hi”. She just kind of said hi and kept walking. I thought ok. Then she walked passed again and I said, “Did you send a birthday invite on my phone?”
She asked. “Are you Chris's wife?”
I said, “No, I am Richards wife and Landon is my son. Is this your phone number?” I showed her my phone.
She said, “Yes.”
Then we figured out how it happened.
“Oh that is so weird.” she said, “I guess it’s ok for you to go. I just planned it last minute and was going to hand out birthday invites I made here on a piece of paper.” She handed me one. We kind of chatted briefly, she shared where they found a new church and how they just fit in.
Question: Would you attend the birthday party?
I personally don't think we were invited, it was a mistake. At least that is how I feel. LOL I know feelings are real they are just not always true. HELP.
I AM SOOO glad that my feelings are about the same as you guys. I totally felt weird about even thinking about going, but wanted to get some other mothers thougts. I had actually thought about doing something fun for my kids instead of the party.
Thanks you guys. :)
Why would you attend when you already know you were not intentionally invited and it was a mistake? She was nice enough to cover by inviting you when you confronted her. So no, I would not go. Good luck.
Whoops. I would not go. You weren't the intended recipient even though she said it was OK. I wouldn't want to be there where I wasn't really invited.
Nope. She was gracious, under the circumstances, in extending an invitation; the gracious response would be "Thank you so much, but we're busy that day."
And no need for hard feelings. Kids have to limit their birthday lists, and this was just one of those mess-ups that happen.
No I wouldn't go. To me this is a no brainer.
It was a mistake, she invited because she felt embarrassed. I would NOT go.
She didn't even know what your name was.
No, don't go.
It was a mistake.
You do not go. It was sent to you in error and then she didn't know how to un-invite you. Why would you even debate the thought on going? You are not really friends, it was an error, the end.
Well if she sent it back, did it mass send to EVERYONE and thus all the kids on that mass text got invited?
Ditto everyone else...awkward. I wouldn't want to go.
ew. no.
it was a mistake. it would be weird for them and you for you to go.
her reaction leaves a bit to be desired. 'i'm so sorry, it was an error on my part. i'll be more careful about my texting next time!' would have been better than an icky lukewarm 'i guess it's okay for you to go.'
i mean, do you WANT to?
khairete
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She probably DID send it in error and had the good manners to include you in the invitation when you asked her about it. Given the situation, I would probably graciously decline the invitation. This kind of thing happens all the time. Her following through on the invitation (even if it was in error) and you declining the invitation is the appropriate behavior.
Sounds like she accidently 'reply to all' instead of reply. I find when I mass text to friends with iPhones this accidently happens often.
If she actually said "I guess it's OK" then I wouldn't go. Especially if your son isn't very close to the boy. I may even plan a family day trip that day so you and your son have a reason not to go.
But that's just me.
Sounds like she maybe did a "respond to all" instead of just responding to Chris. I probably wouldn't have said anything, and definitely wouldn't have gone because I knew the invite was a mistake. It's probably more embarrassing for her than it is for you and I don't think it was necessary to call her out on it and make it more awkward than it already was.
No, I wouldn't go but I wouldn't be rude about why, etc. either.
Nope. I wouldn't go. It was a simple mistake, and the mom showed her good manners in taking it in stride and inviting you.
If you decide not to go, be sure to contact her and graciously let her know so she isn't expecting you.
It was an error. Graciously decline.
The joys of modern technology..Misshaps! I remember texting my brother about my father's depression, and I ended up texting my father instead! They both start with DA, and I didn't check to make sure it was sent to my brother..When my father wrote back, " No I am not depressed.." that was quite awkward.
I had to turn it into a joke..saying " oh, I told Danny you were depressed because he never calls you so I wanted hom to feel bad.."
It turned out to be a nice save, but oh my lord did I want to die!
Honestly I think she probably was going to send you an invite on the piece of paper, but it is still an awkward misshap. I would see if anyone else is going..
No. I wouldn't even tell my son about it. Mix ups like this happen all of the time with email and texts.
I wouldn't go. It was sent by mistake and she was embarrassed and felt awkward so she invited you. I guess take that as a woops and not to respond and invite via mass email!!
That's tough. My gut says no, but if your son has heard about it through the other boys, then yes.
Nah, to be honest, I wouldn't. I would send a birthday card wishing the birthday boy well, maybe even a small gift (ONLY if the birthday boy was a good friend of my son..not if he isn't), but I wouldn't attend the party. My thoughts on it are that she didn't invite you on purpose, and when you asked if you'd been invited, she asked "are you Chris' wife?" That's who she was sending an invite to....not Richard's wife. Sounds like it was one of those "reply to all" kind of mistakes. She was in an awkward position and didn't want to say "Oops! I didn't want to invite you, how embarassing" so she said "I guess it's ok for you to go".
I would never attend a party where the host said she GUESSED it'd be ok for me to go. Heck no! I would not get my feelings hurt though---it was just a little mistake. I have only had 2 large parties for my son's birthday; most are just intimate little things that are the 4 of us and his closest 1 or 2 friends. That's just what works best for us most of the time. We just have very occasional parties that we consider large (over 6 kids, for me, is a large party). We do love to have a day at the beach or park with 2-3 families which could be 4-7 kids, but a party means I'm responsible and parents might not stay to help...ack! So, I might not invite someone to a birthday party but that does NOT mean I don't like them, it just means I'm trying to keep it all manageable...please don't get hurt feelings or upset about it because it probably wasn't a slight against you or your son. But while it'd be "ok" to go to a party, I wouldn't go unless I was happily welcome, if that makes sense.
I wouldn't go. It's obvious that you were sent the invite by mistake. What else was she going to say when you asked her about it?
I wouldn't go...maybe had she been like oh oops, I didn't mean for that to happen but we would love if your son could come. Then I might consider it. But "I guess its ok for you to go" would not entice me to send my child.
If your son is not friends with her son than I wouldn't even consider it. If they are than I might. I suppose it would all depend on my relationship with her and my own perceptions from that encounter.
No, I wouldn't go. It would make me uncomfortable, and I would also be concerned about making the other person uncomfortable by showing up when there was obviously no intention of inviting my family.
And really, that doesn't mean there was unkindness meant. It sounds like you two don't know each other very well. She doesn't even sound like she quite knew who she was talking to. In your own words, you are only kind of acquainted. So unless there's more behind your wanting to go (for instance, if your son is the only one not going or if he and the other boy are friends in spite of the lack of a relationship between you and the mom), I would decline the invitation.
It's okay to go if you want to. She admitted that she didn't intentionally invite you. But she didn't say "I'm sorry - we have a full house. Thanks for understanding."
You never know - it might actually make a friend out of just an acquaintence.
Dawn
I would not attend unless my child REALLY wanted to. Then I'd at least consider it if it was at a convenient time, not to far of a drive, etc. I don't like to be where I'm not wanted, and I know exactly what happened on the texting thing, and no, it doesn't sound like you were invited.
Nope. I would not go.
Oh, this last-minute party planning! Mistakes are bound to happen.
If I were you and I hadn't definitely decided to stay away (and apparently you haven't definitely decided), and if the boys are friends rather than just cub scout colleagues, I would simply double-check with the mama. Since you two had a friendly conversation, it would be OK to do this. She was probably quite embarrassed at her mistake and did the right thing to, um, at least semi-invite your son, but ask if she really wants to invite him. Tell her there are no hard feelings on your part! I'm thinking that if, perhaps, the party is away from home, it might make extra expense to have an extra guest - in which case, of course, you would definitely not intrude upon the party. But if you double-check, and she says, "Please come, by all means! We would LOVE to have your son!" then go if you choose.
If you want to be really gracious, you could ask the mother (with your boy's approval) if her son could come over to play with your son some time in the future.
The thing you don't want to do is to remember this blooper and hold it against the woman in the future.
