Birthday Party Invites

Updated on August 22, 2009
D.R. asks from Saint Louis, MO
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I need some advice for my daughter's b-day party on the 29th. She is in her second year of preschool and we sent out invitations last week to all the girls that were in her class last year. Today she started back to school, and there are 2 new girls in her class. Is it proper to invite the new girls, even though they just started? I don't want to put them on the spot with someone they just met, but I hat to seem rude and exclude them from joining in on some fun with their new classmates,only to hear about it at school a few days later. (Gifts are not necessary-my daughter is just excited to have a tea party with her friends and dress up like little ladies.) Any advice would be greatly appreciated! Thanks, Mommas!

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So What Happened?

Thank you to everyone for the great ideas!!! The tea party was a huge success. The girls, all 12 of them) wore their pretty dresses, hats, even some of them wore gloves. They loved the food and decorations, and the mom's stayed for a good time, too! We made necklaces then had a fashion show where my oldest son announced each girl as she came through a curtain, and the other sone described their dress and gave them a rose! After opening gifts, the girls disappeared into the house and painted their nails. Even the new girls had a good time, and it was nice to meet the new girls and their moms! My daughter had so much fun, she was totally exhausted! Thank you again to everyone who responded. You're the best!

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K.D.

answers from Dallas on

All I can ever think about when I think of this is the time I didn't invite the new girl at work to my bridal shower (I didn't feel that it was very nice of me to ask a gift of someone that I didn't really know! I heard second hand that she was sad not to be invited).

But honestly, I think you should invite the new girls. They are so young that there is no way that they will have trouble feeling included, I think its a good idea to invite them.

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K.B.

answers from Wichita on

Good Morning D., By all means invite the new little girls. Will give everyone the chance to make new friends and get to know each other. Put on the invitations no gifts necessary if you wish.
Make a special invite for them, like
Hi my name is ....
I'm having a Tea Party for my Birthday. We get to dress up, if we want to and have treats and lots of fun things.
Please don't bring me gifts, my gift is you attending and having fun with me. Bring your favorite doll or teddy bear with you so they can have fun too.
Sounds silly but something like that..
But do invite them

God Bless you
K. Nana of 5

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K.M.

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I would definitely invite them, especially since they aren't obligated to bring a gift. To me, that alone, takes out the awkwardness of inviting someone new. I'm sure the girls would enjoy it. Who knows? This could be their first memory of a very close friendship with your daughter in the future. Have fun!

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J.D.

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I think it would be the appropriate thing to do to invite the girls. This would be a gesture of welcoming them into the fold of the new class. I'm sure you would want the same for your daughter if she was one of the "new kids".

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V.L.

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I would invite them. They will be in class with her all year, and it would be a good opportunity for them to get to meet the other kids and get to know each other. If you don't invite them, they will feel excluded and hurt because you KNOW the kids will be talking about it in class. As a parent, and I HAVE been there, I wouldn't feel wierd at all about my child being invited to the birthday party of a child they just met. I would be happy my child is being included.

Good luck!!!

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F.B.

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My son had a birthday party the first weekend of a new school. The mom asked the teacher to tell me that I shouldn't feel obligated, but that it might be nice for him to get to play with his new classmates and I could meet all the moms/dads of his class (we have a very interactive school, with lots of volunteering). We went and it was great, I met some new friends, he really bonded with a couple of the boys in the class and it really helped him transition because he felt more included. The teacher thought it was a great idea. I would definitely invite them and if you want, drop a note in saying welcome to the school or let the teach mention it to them, if she/he will. It will of course be fun for your daughter, it won't exclude anyone and it may be really great for these girls to make the transition, which is hard for kids!! Sounds like fun!!

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S.B.

answers from Topeka on

If you are worried about how the little girls will feel, just go ahead and invite them. They will be tickled pink!

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M.B.

answers from St. Louis on

I think it would be a good idea to invite them, I think with them being new, they might feel very excluded and this would be a perfect way to get to know their classmates. I personally would love it if my daughter were new at a school and they welcomed her with open arms and giving her the opportunity to fit in and get to know everyone. I wouldnt feel put on the spot at all as a parent. I would be more upset if my daughter was left out. =(. My vote, invite them, if they cant come, fine, but at least they have that choice.

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B.C.

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I would invite them, it would be a great oppertunity for them to interact with the other kids, you can always post on the invite that their presence is the present, a polite way of saying no gifts are necesary = ) Or make no mention of the birthday just call it a tea party...fun ideas for the future instead of presents have a food drive for a local shelter or food pantry, or have a book exchange and everybody goes home with a new or gently used book = ) I hope your daughter has a fabulous Tea party = )
B.

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L.B.

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DEFINITELY invite them. If you don't it may seem like an "exclusive club" that they were left out of...besides it's a great way to welcome them to the class. And with that many girls what's two more anyway? I'm sure everyone will be thrilled to just dress up and do "adult" things. LOL. If you are worried about the "on the spot" thing talk with the parents and tell them that gifts aren't necessary, etc...I did this with my son's b-day party last year b/c we did an overnight and swim party and I didn't want the parents to feel pressured from the kids for a decision...so if the parents said "yes" THEN the kids got an invitation...worked great! I've found parents generally appreciate the heads up even if it may be awkward at least you are making an effort to talk with them, get to know them AND their child. In my book, it's a win-win situation. Good luck!

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S.H.

answers from St. Louis on

I didn't even read the other posters! YES, INVITE THEM or you will have issues on down the line. It's the kinder thing to do!

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S.W.

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I would invite them, talk to the parents and let them know that no gifts are neceassary that you just want them to come and have fun. Sounds like a great time and if they are new they can feel like one of the "group". After all, they don't have to come if they don't want to. Good luck and have fun!!

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K.O.

answers from Wichita on

Hi D.!
Yes, definitely invite them. There is no reason to set the new girls up for hurt feelings. It will give them another opportunity to get to know the other girls too.
Enjoy your princess tea party!
K.

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