K.V.
you could do a dress up tea party. have the guests bring their favorite dress up clothes. you could go to goodwill and find some hats and jewelry really cheap to add to the mix. buy feather boa in bulk from joanne's and cut it in to good lengths for the girls. then have lunch...pb and j finger sandwiches, cookies, fruit, etc. with tea on real china. the "tea" could even be juice if they don't want real tea. again, you can find tea cups really cheap at goodwill and some antique stores. or you might already have some that aren't too precious for the girls to use. my daughter is almost 4 and she is really into the whole dress up thing so her birthday is going to be like this.