Bippy Problem

Hi~
When my oldest was 3 (she is now 7!!), I told her on (pick a day) she would know she was a big girl b/c she would wake up and all her pacifiers would have no tops anymore. I picked a day far enough out that we could talk and prepare for it but not so far out we both would forget and lose interest. The night before the big day, I went around the house and snipped the rubber tops off all the pacifiers! Including the one she had spit out in her crib. When she woke up the next morning, she looked at her paci in the crib and knew today was the day she was a big girl! We made such a big deala bout it. I called "everyone" in front of her and let her get on the phone (the relatives were all prepped in advance!). I took her to McDonalds to celebrate! Then, we gathered all the pacis and put them in a decorated bag and went to a park and "distributed them" in the woods. I later went and out them in the garbage can! She did not freak at all. You may get some whining but it will pass...trust me!!
GOOD LUCK!

Hi, http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Pacifier
This website may help. You refer to it as "ugly bippy/bobo" but remember it's us parents who gave it to them in the first place. It served a purpose, did its job & now we want it go "go away".. agreed-it MAY be time. I don't know if it's a "one size fits all" stop process. My sister-in-law said she took the pacifier out of her 2/3? yr old daughters (my neice) mouth & instead put her (daughters) thumb in! (clearly mishandled). The pacifier (like some children have 'blankeys') can be "comfort zones" for children. My neice is now 9-- still sucks her thumb, I believe as a coping mechanism- Her Dad (my bro, 42 yrs old) died a yr ago (heart attack) right in front of her (& her 6 yr old sis). A couple of months after their Mom (sister in law) took off & the girls are living w/my sister (smokes) who thinks (& tells her) thumb sucking is "disguting" & expects this 9yr old to simply 'stop'! I tried to explain it would be like telling an adult (my sister) to simply--'stop' -- extinguish your cigarette (cope-mechanism)for good. My point is - yes, it may seem your "3yr old" is a big girl & it may be time to stop but it's impt to find the proper (Dr. Phil type help) way to handle the situation since it will or could have a negative impact later in life. Good luck.

Not sure how verbal she is but have you tried asking her what she wants to do about this? Even a 3 year old can come up with ideas. Some examples - have you tried asking her - honey, when are you going to give up your binky? She may, herself, identify a date (eg my 4th birthday). You could also ask her if she might want to trade it for something (maybe show her pictures of a doll or something from a catalog). Trying to trick her, hide it or force it from her is just putting you guys into a power struggle. She's a smart and determined girl - you are lucky to have a child like that even though it is frustrating right now. Another idea is to maybe try to find out why she needs it at night - is afraid of the dark for instance? I don't think she is being stubborn for the sake of it, she really feels she needs this thing and, maybe you can find out why.Anyway, don't hound her about it too much, she will eventually give it up.

I can tell you how I was able to break the binki habit but then I'd have to explain the blanky then after the blanky the teddy bear. We have to tell our son(3yrs) that the teddy bear had a long night taking care of him so they need to go sleepy while he goes to school. Good Luck!

I'm assuming that a bippy is a pacifier...if so we have the same issue here. It's not something that will just disappear. She is attached to that item, and ripping it away will not help the problem. Go out and get yourself a kitchen timer. Sit your little girl down and tell her that from now on during the day when she feels like she needs her pacifier, she can have if for 5 minutes. Tell her that you will set the timer and when the timer goes off, it will be put away until the next time she needs it. This process will take the power struggle out of the equation so that you can deal with the real issue - the attachment. Start talking to her about the pacifier regularly. Tell her about all the things that she can do now that she is a big girl. Point out that babies love pacifiers, too, and why. Tell her that some day she will be so big that she will not need the pacifier anymore. Also, help her to understand that you would really prefer that she only have the pacifier at night, and that she can only have it during the day if she really needs it. Also, we told our daughter that the pacifier isn't allowed to go out and play and it isn't allowed on car rides. Eventually, we started saying that if she was going to have the pacifier then that means it's rest time so she needed to lay down (still setting the timer). Now she gets it at nap and at night.

Eventually, she'll decide that she doesn't need it anymore. You could also try encourageing her to find a lovey (a stuffed toy that she could hug). This may make the transition from pacifier to no pacifier a little smoother as she will have another attachment item.

Good luck!

Hi, I had the same problem with my daughter, Who happens to be 21 yrs. old now. and I have a granddaughter who is going threw the same problem. Your lucky though, cuz My daughter any my granddaughter both had to have 2 or more bobo's at a time. I am going to do the same thing I did with my daughter to get rid of the bobo's It helped! my granddaughter is 2, but I am going to start now. put a little black pepper on the pacifier. she won't take it any more. Just a little it worked for me. hope this helps.

try usin santa? try your a big girl and big girls dont use it. (show other kids her age )
or just deal with the tantrums for a few days out of site out of mind.
the more you argue the more shell want it.

I'm assuming you mean pacifier :) I knew someone that had a kid who was almost 5 & wouldn't give up his paci!! We actually had my dad call him & pretend to be Santa. He told him that big boys don't use pacis & he should get rid of it. He actually got rid of it that night & never used it again. He was older but it worked. I've heard of the "paci fairy" who is like the tooth fairy. Leave the pacis for the fairy for kids who need it (b/c your kid doesn't anymore since she's such a big girl!) & she'll get a small gift in place of them. I know they sound ridiculous but they are ideas :) Good luck!

I got my daughter off the pacifier around 13 months. First I would only give it to her at night before she went to bed. Then eventually I stopped giving it to her. She would cry for it at bedtime, but I did not give in to her. She cried for about three nights for her pacifier, but after that she forgot about it and was able to go to sleep without it. I think it was easier to do this at an earlier age, before she could really voice how she was feeling, good luck.

we had the same problem with our twins when they were the same age. Right before Christmas, we started talking to them about how Santa needed the binkies for new babies and if they gave them to him, a new baby would have a binky.
Hope this helps,

Ohhh yeah the big binky dilemma! My daughter is 4 now and just
a couple of years ago I thought she was going to get married with the binky in her mouth. Unfortunately I had to tell her that she is a big girl now and when she starts school she cannot take it with her..of course questioning me if the binky was gonna be home when she got home? I told her yes, but your going to have to throw it out yourself..I told her to get the binky and throw it out..she did and it was a stepping stone..a large leap into biggirlhood..when she sees a binky in the store her eyes light up but I remind her that she is a big girl..and tell her. "come on lets look for something that a big girl can use"