Binkies - Toms River,NJ

I think all kids are different in what they prefer. My daughter liked the Avent pacifiers from day one. She would spit out any other brand we gave her. My nephew on the other hand, only wanted Nuk brand.

My son only liked the kind they give at the hospital (that is for the 2 weeks he used one before he started sucking his thumb). My daughter who is now 2 will only use Nuk brand (she only uses it to sleep now). Each kid is different just try a few till you find one he likes.

Does your baby have a tongue tie that makes it hard for him to keep the paci in his mouth? Or maybe he is hungry...they have a growth spurt every few weeks at the beginning. :)

There are some babies who don't take to a pacifier no matter how much you try. My daughter liked the Soothie that the hospital started her with. Later she switched to MAM because they held to her face more easily and she was less likely to lose it while sleeping. Go to the store and buy a bunch of different brands to see if any take. If not, you'll have to find other ways to soothe.

My son only liked the Soothie brand that came from the hospital. We ordered a few extra online.
At 5 weeks, he's not going to have all that much control over anything! LOL
BEWARE the binky.
Be careful what you wish for regarding binkies.
Best to use binkies as little as possible...as they get older it becomes a very hard habit to break!

lol. Ok, I know, stop laughing. I'm laughing because you're discribing my son and guess what? Don't know if it has anything to do with it, but he's extremely gifted. Your son is only 5 weeks old, but just wait. Gifted babies/toddlers can drive you nuts. It's really not that he has no control over it, it's just that he's not interested in it so don't try to force it on him and don't teach him how to suck his thumb. It's actually a good thing, because you won't have to worry about having trouble when it's time to say, "Goodbye binky." My son used to shoot the binky clear across the room when they'd try to give it to him in the daycare center, so they gave up. He wasn't a good sleeper either to the point he was known as "the sleepless baby" and "little farmer." It turned out that he just loved to know what all was happening around him. While the other babies were sleeping in the strollers, DS was wide awake looking around at everything he could. We used to country line dance with him to get him to sleep, because none of the traditional ideas worked. (No binky needed.) He loved to be carried around the house and have me tell him what things were called. He'd look at an object, so I'd point to it and tell him what it was. ("That, that's a plant.) I'd take him to the grocery store and talk his ears off. People thought I was nuts until he started talking back. His favorite isle was the snack isle, because of all the colors and shiny bags. He started talking before he could walk and was using 3 syllable words by 6 months. My main point to you is to have fun with your son and enjoy him rather than worrying about a binky.

I would buy a couple different brands to see which one works the best.

The reason for having a pacifier is to give the baby plenty of sucking while they new. Babies have a sucking instinct that needs to be met. They will suck on a nipple to get the sucking instinct fulfilled, or they will try to suck their thumbs.

I never wanted my kids to suck their thumbs. I saw kids in our families do it until kindergarten, and one of MY cousins did until she was 13 and made a mess of her teeth alignment. A pacifier can be taken away, unlike a thumb. AND, I sucked my thumb until my dad said no more, and he painted my thumb at 2 years old with a very spicy substance. I didn't want to have to do that to my kids.

So, I talked to my ped and he said that the best thing I could do for my baby if I didn't want a thumb sucker, and for my nipples, was to offer a real pacifier, and not allow my baby to use my nipples as a pacifier. So I just kept putting one in his mouth. And my baby, like yours, was picky, picky.

The ped also said to take the paci away between 5 and 6 months because by then the sucking instinct need has abated, and it just becomes habit and harder to get rid of. I admit that I hate seeing toddlers walking around with a pacifier in their mouths, and I didn't want that either. So I took my kids' pacifiers away in that time frame.

So, for you, I would try a group of pacifiers and see which one works better, and then between 5 and 6 months, either take it away all at once, or snip the ends off a little at a time until you son doesn't want it anymore.

Hope this helps.
Dawn

My six month old took some time learning how to hold the binky in her mouth as well. I have always given her the orthodontic binkies by NUK and she has done really well with them. And I like them just because I know they're not ruining her teeth!

Definitely the NUK. Please don't take it too hard with some questioning your use of the pacifier. Some kids need to suck, and it had nothing to do with hunger. My daughter needed a pacifier and gave it up when she was ready. My son never wanted one. They are both happy adjusted kids! You do what is best for your baby.

My oldest used Avent and loved them, but we were using the Avent bottles too. My two sons used NUK brand. We just broke our youngest of the habit. He's almost 2.5. The others were 3.5 when we finally took it away from them. They're great for soothing when babies are little, but quickly become a habit.

My first daughter used the wubbanub. It's a soothie pacifier with a stuffed animal attached to it. She absolutely loved it! And actually still does. She's 3 and uses it only on her bed. We will give it up sometime before she goes to college :) You can buy them without the animal on them but when they have the animal attached it is so easy for babies to hold onto it. She could find it early on in her crib and put it back in her mouth. We also never lost the binky in the car because when she spit it out it just fell right on her chest. They are great, but I agree with what a lot of other are saying. Buy a bunch and try them out. We bought a few Wubbanubs for my second daughter (who is now 2) and she had no interest in them. Now she just likes to have them in her bed to cuddle so she can be like her big sister, but she never sucks them. Good luck and I hope you find something that works!
Here's the link
http://www.wubbanub.com/

My son really liked the Nuk brand. It was the only kind he wanted to use.

My three sons all used pacifiers, but I can't remember what brands. They all liked different ones. I breastfed on demand and never found that they experienced 'nipple confusion'. If they were hungry they just 'spit the dummy', and nothing but the boob would satisfy!

They all got rid of them, with no bad repurcussions when they were older.

Beware the binky, if he won't take it it's a bigger blessing in the long run than if he will :-/

My youngest guy loved the NUK, my oldest hated pacifiers, my daughter took them until she was 5 months old and kept spitting them out, her pediatrician said she didn't want it, and I've since found that whenever a baby spits it out they don't want it. If you truly want your son to be on a binky (and not all children like or love them) you'll have to keep putting it in his mouth for him each time he loses it until he can find it and put it in himself, which won't happen for at least a few more months. Try talking softly to him and patting him to relax him when he spits it out and screams, or pick him up and hold him, this may be what he needs.

I asked my mother a couple of years ago what babies used before pacifiers, she looked at me and said, "Their fingers or thumbs!" None of her 11 children used pacifiers, and out of the three who sucked their fingers or thumbs all were done by the age of 4.

I never heard of nurses giving a newborn a binky in the hospital.

Now... especially with a baby... there can be a lot of confusion, per a baby's cues, if the baby wants the "binky" OR if the baby is simply HUNGRY.

Babies, need to be fed on-demand, 24/7. They get hungry often. But, if a binky is in their mouth, a parent may not know that baby is hungry or that he/she wants to nurse or have his/her bottle. Because, the Binky is replacing the baby's needs, for nursing/having feedings.

I think your baby is probably hungry.
A baby, has hunger cues. ie: rooting, turning its head, clutching its hands or sucking on it, etc. This means baby is hungry. Or they simply cry.
Babies also "cluster feed" which means they even need to feed every single hour. And this is normal.
But a binky, in a baby this young... it does not allow the baby to cue you that he/she is hungry.

My daughter hated binkies.
My son loved it. But we did not use Binkies at this age.
5 weeks old and any age under 6 months age, a baby will not have 'control' of a binky because they do not have prehensile ability or fine motor skills or coordination.

When my DD was about 2-3 weeks old my DH taught her how to use a binky.
Initially I was dead set against it...but she wanted to nurse all night and I (and my boobs) gave in.
I think it was important that daddy did this...she would not have accepted it from me.
She liked the NAM brand ones. They kinda hug their little faces. (I liked them cause they don't make any clicking noise like the ones w/ handles.)
Anyhoo...he spent a couple nights holding her and rocking her and holding the paci in her mouth. Then she really got it down.

My son liked the green Soothie ones.

IMHO, as a nursing mom, binkies are a Godsend. Well worth having to wean them later.
DS weaned himself around 9 months. DD was almost 3.5.

My guys only liked the Avent brand pacifiers... Neither of them would use any other ones...

The only kind my son would take, was Gerber NUK.

There are many kinds to try and you'll find one the baby likes eventually. The hospital ones are usually so straight they don't like them, some do though. Nuk is good and many others but just be sure you get the right size as some are smaller and some for older ages.