Binkie Question

My son gave them up on his second birthday. We talked about it probably about 2 month prior to that. On his 2nd birthday he knew he was going to give them for someone else to use. We probably talked about it everyday so he definately knew it was coming. We talked about being a big boy, that some other baby needed to use the pacifier... When the time came he put all of his pacis on the table and when he came home from daycare that day they were gone, but there was money sitting on the table for him. I don't think he cried for them once; we talked about it so much that he knew the time had come.

We just went cold turkey with my 18 month old. He had a few nights of a little trouble sleeping, but he's great now. We just stopped giving it to him and it worked fine. He found one in his room and threw it, so he's over it.

My kids were never paci kids, but if you aren't gonna give it up right now, how about keeping a spare on the nightstand so that when/if she wakes up, you just have one available...

Well, it might be time for her to give it up... but you know that... so...

If you want her to keep it... why not get one of those paci-clips to keep it on her.
They're basically a strap that attaches to the binkie on one end and clips to clothes on the other... so it'd always be with her, and you'd only need one a night.

HTH
T.

I recommend going cold turkey! I went through this with my 3rd child, my older two didn't use a binky past 8 months old- their choice- but my 3rd was a binky boy. I did the same thing. Hunting under cribs and behind dressers in the middle of the night. Panicking when I couldn't find one.....

Cold turkey is easier than you might think. It's always harder on the parents than the kids to take away their favorite things. I nixed the bottles as soon as my 3rd turned one (I was SO over washing bottles at that point as my children are so close in age) and wasn't about to do the Binky Scavenger Hunt any longer. My son was 18 months when I took his binkies away. One morning, I just said, "No more!" and threw them all away.

You may lose a little bit of sleep at first, but how much are you losing now? The first night, my son asked for his binky and offered him a stuffed toy to hold instead. He surprisingly agreed and it seemed as if he had all but forgotten about his binky in two days.

If you're not ready to toss the binky yet (I totally understand!!) they do make binky clips to attach them to their clothing. My only problem with those is you have to make sure you clip them far enough down that the binky JUST reaches their mouth. Otherwise, I worry about them getting strangled by the ribbon thing it attaches to.

I think if a child needs to suck they need something to suck...and if nothing is available fingers are a good substitute. What about a cute binky clip attached to her jammie front. Not too long or it could be hazardous.

My sister makes them and sells them on etsy.com. There are a lot of really cute ones out there that are safe for even bigger kiddos.

From my own experience: I bought several of them and hid 3-4 under my pillow every night, so when my son "lost" his in his sleep I just pulled one out and stuck it in his mouth- no need to get up and look for them.

We just had a going away party for binkie 3 days ago! We had a cake, sang a song, put it in the pretty box and dropped it in a mail box for a mail man to take it to a brand new baby :)) We said good-bye to it because my son stoped taking mid-day naps and binkie was the only thing that helped. Now he is a big boy. He cried the first night and I hugged him and told him how sorry I am that binkie left until he fell asleep. He remembered it in the morning again. Next two days he hardly asked. Today fell asleep - no problem.

With my 1st son, I cut the top of the binky and after a few times putting it in his mouth he just chucked it and didn't want to have anything to do with it. But my 2nd son was so attached to the binky and I too would get up and find the binky. He got to the point he was tossing all the time and then I had to hunt to find it. He is going to turn two next week and a couple of months ago, we came home from somewhere and he tossed the binky and we couldn't find it, I wasn't going to go buy another, so that night I put him to bed without one. He cried a few times, but I just gave him his blanket to soothe himself. It took a few days of him crying out but I would always give him his blanket. He doesn't have one anymore. So I would say try it cold turkey but don't give in if the crying gets too hard to handle. Just give her something else to help her out. Good luck.

Getting over the binkie, wouldn't be a bad idea at that age. I've known children that sucked on a passy WAY to long and ended up messing up their front teeth. Neither one of my children ever got dependent on one, we rarly gave them one. If we did it was more of a test to see if they were hungry, so any suggestions on that, I can't help. But I do know that at night time seems to be the time when kids really want their passy. So it will be tough. However, If your not ready, there are passies that clip to clothes that may be helpful. Either that are buy more and keep several by her bed at night, Good luck.

I'm yet to go through getting rid of the dummy (my lovely daughter is only 3 months old), but I've seen so many people just doing it cold turkey, and you get through the few days of upset, and then it's over. If you can be stong and do it, I'd suggest it. It's what I plan to do if we get her off it while she's too young to understand us telling her it's time for no more dummy.

I feel like 'weaning' them off the dummy just drags out something that could be over much quicker.
Good luck!

If you're getting up 1-2 times a night, I say it's time to go cold turkey and let her learn to soothe herself back to sleep without the binkie. My son had his pacifier during nap and bedtime until he was about 25 months and I decided it was time to give it up. My pediatrician said cold turkey is usually the most effective method, so I locked all the pacis in our safe, and within a week it was over. He hardly ever asked for them, but when he did I told him they were all gone. It messed up his nap schedule for a while, but I'm happy to not have to hunt for lost pacifiers any more.

If she doesn't have a lovey of some sort I would take her to the store and let her pick one. Stop physically putting the binkie in her mouth, and give her her lovey instead every time she wants her binkie. Make sure you leave it in the crib during the day. If she wants it then she can use it in the crib. When she is ready to play, she needs to leave it in bed. Then just poke a hole with a needle in the top let her use that for three days Then cut a little bit more off every three days. When she complains about it, just say "Oh, yep. I guess they are breaking cause they are getting too old." Make sure you take all the extra ones away or do the same to them as the first.
Eventually (with in 2 weeks) she wont want it anymore. And you will be a free women of the night!
I did this with my 2nd and it worked wonderfully!
my 1st sucked her thumb till she was 5, (that was a whole different technique!) My 3rd sucked on her loveys ears and stopped when she was 2 1/2 by herself. And my fourth sucks on his loveys tail, he just turned 2. It looks really funny, but at least it has no effect on his teeth and it is easy for him to find at night:)
Good luck!
E.

I would get rid of it and teach her to self-soothe. Only one of mine really used one past one and we got rid of it by 18 months, which I considered to be too old.