Binki and Boobie...

I would say the breast then the paci that way she has at least something. Have daddy put her down that way she won't convince you. Good luck!

I would cut out the breast first, the Binky at bed time won't hurt her for a while longer, and you can get your break before the next baby comes.

as for he weening it depends on how often and when you feed now. Start by cutting out one feeding a day and waiting a couple of days inbetween until you are down to just one or two, than tell her your boobs are busted. put bandaids over the nipples, and tell her they stopped working because she is a big girl, and big girls us cups for their milk. If she is still night nursing than you need to help her find new ways to comfort when she wakes.

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Extended breastfeeding is what it is called.
My kids, self-weaned. It was my choice to go this route.
My son self-weaned at about 1 year old.
My daughter at about 2.5 years old.
Per my daughter, BY the time she was that age... I simply taught her 'rules' about nursing:
1) It was my boobs
2) to ask politely not demand
3) Do not just grab me or pull up my shirt
4) not in public.
Now, when my daughter asked to nurse, I would also at times tell her "In a minute... Mommy is busy..." and I would NOT sit down and made myself busy. Which was easy. Then she would get distracted and forget about it.
I also TALKED to her about it... that one day she will not need to nurse.
Then one day, on her own, she told me "I don't drink from you anymore..." and just giggled like it was so funny that she did that. And then she was done. Never went back to it.

I completely agree with cutting out the breast and letting her have binkie a little longer. This way you get a break, she isn't so traumatized :-), and you have a better shot at sticking with weaning. Too much all at once can be torture for the entire household. Good luck to you, this is a tough one!

My oldest son weaned himself at a little over 3, he was down to just one feeding, the one before bed. My daughter never really cared to nurse, there was too much interesting stuff going on around, lol, she weaned at 13.5 months, both our choices.

My oldest never used a binki, my daughter gave it up on her own at 5.5 months, and my little guy went cold turkey with his at 13 months, the same day he gave up bottles. I'd say at 20 months you can go cold turkey, or if that seems too heartless to you snip the tips off them so she doesn't get the same feeling from sucking them and don't buy new ones. If she says they're broken or no good tell her that's because big girls don't need them.

Go down to just the feeding before bedtime, it's usually the last for them to give up, or the one first thing in the morning if she's still doing that one and you want to avoid nighttime conflict. The rest of the time tell her she is a big girl and give her milk in a sippy, don't back down. Also give her a sippy of water to take to bed, no binki. (Whether you go cold turkey or allow her to use the snipped binkis a couple of days have a "bye bye binki" celebration earlier in the day, you and she throw them all out in the trash outside so they can't be retrieved, and give her a new stuffed animal to take their place and snuggle with at night, explaining to her that big girls in beds don't use binkis but snuggle with their lovies.)

After a 5-7 days or so of just the bedtime (or morning) nursing have Daddy put her to bed every night and busy yourself. You can tell her you'll be there in a few minutes, then go take a shower or do something that will keep you occupied awhile. (This is how my son got weaned, he couldn't stay awake while I was legitimately busy.) If she's still awake when you're done stay away from her room, have Daddy tell her from the doorway you're still busy. Put up a baby gate in her doorway to keep her in her room, stack two if need be like I did with my climber ; )

During the day if she asks about nursing tell her you have "owwies" and show her your breasts with band-aids on your nipples, as another mom suggested. Tell her "the milk's all gone."

Stay consistent, she will more than likely cry, but after 3-5 nights the worst should be over. Have Daddy put her to bed, then leave the room with the gate(s) up. Have him tell her it's time to go to sleep, and have him under no circumstances hold her or rock her after she's been put down. If he needs to go back to her room he only puts her in bed, no talking or interaction, pats her back and leaves. The same after a couple of weeks when she is no longer nursing and you go in, if she's still having problems. The door gate is invaluable, it eliminates her coming to your room and confronting you.

Sounds like a lot but it honestly is worth it to get her off her binki, nursing, and sleeping through the night. Be consistent and enjoy a break before you do this again! ; )

My daughter is 17 months and I can't imagine getting rid of her pacifier at night! That would be pure madness! If she's only using it at night it doesn't hurt anything. Can't she have one little creature comfort???? Honestly...

I say the breast first because that takes the longest. You can always just take away the binki but your boobs are there all the time. Both my kids were weaned about the same time, both before 2yrs. Neither of my kids gave me a hard time with the weaning. I started cutting down the amount of feedings and the amount of time they were allowed to stay nursing. The binki was actually the easiest. I just told them that they were broken and we had to throw them away.

I didn't with my grand-kids, they could have it as long as they wanted. I took everything away from my daughter and she decided to suck her fingers. They are a LOT harder to break someone of than a binky. She has a recessed jaw and her teeth are horrible. The orthodontist we took her too when we had excellent insurance there was nothing he could do but recommended we make an appointment with an oral surgeon to break her jaw and reform it, so, I say do the breast first then if you absolutely must take the binky away do that much later.

My oldest was never interested in a pacifier and she self weaned at about 4.5 y/o (normal weaning age across the globe if no force or shame is used to wean) - I'm a child-led weaning advocate.

I never realized it until after the fact, but my prolactin levels were high enough to be a decent birth control and I didn't conceive (we'd been passively trying for a year by then) until 3-4 months after she weaned. It was a great natural child spacer!!

I recommend breastfeeding for awhile longer - the antibodies and nutrition gained from your breastmilk will make daycare illnesses pass her by or make them much less severe. You both will be better off in the long run. You never know how long it will take you to get pregnant anyways.

I would do the breast first. If you do both at the same time it may tramatise her. She will need the binki as something to sooth her. I did not take the binki away till they where ready. Some thought they where too old but it was easier than fighting and it make the feel sucure.

Good luck and God Bless!

My son stopped breastfeeding at about 4 months, so all I had was the pacifier. Then when he was almost 1, his pacifier (which was connected to him with a clip and ribbon) somehow got unattatched and lost. We didn't have anymore, so we just decided it was time to wean the paci. That first night was AWFUL, but after that, he was fine. We found his pacifier a week later. We stopped rocking him to sleep and just put him in his bed, and he started going to sleep all by himself. He doesn't suck his thumb or anything. I still rock him to sleep for nap though because I gotta have my cuddle time.

I would actually do it opposite of what you were thinking. I would take the breast away first. Then when she wanted to breast feed I would give her the paci. After a couple months you can cut a little hole in the paci and it wont have a good suck anymore and you can toss them. Or just toss them all together. When she wants the paci give her a favorite lovey.

I also would suggest breast then pacifier. Because you can take away the paci later, the boob is much harder lol. What worked for my oldest son was rocking him with the paci and putting him to sleep. We also talked about how he was a big boy and soon wouldn't need the paci. Then I cut the tip of it and he decided he didn't like it that way so he threw it out. He was a little older than your daughter, but give it a little time and it may work for you too. I would baby step it, first wean, then worry about the paci. If she uses the paci during the day limit it first to only at night or nap, then you can decide when the right time to get rid of it for good is.