So my husband is looking really good to get to go on a nice company trip to San Diego this June. At that time our newest addition will be six months old. When we were talking this over I just casually mentioned not needing to list the baby as needing an airline ticket bc he will just be in one of our laps. So we got to talking about this situation. This trip is to a spa and resort, there will be a nice dinner and it is just meant to be lounging on the beach, pool, spa etc. So if it were you, would you take your baby or just opt out and have him go with another family member. He could take his mom or one of his sisters or even a good buddy of his. The thing is I just want to go!! I mean, is it so horrible to take a baby to a nice work dinner? I mean, I think maybe so...but it's Cali, for free, the beach..... :( He also said he could go alone, so I was thinking what if we just make it our family vacation, they have the option for you to bring other people if you give them your credit card to book airfare, so maybe we could all go. He could do the work stuff when needed and we could hit the beach together at other times as a family. Plus my best bud ever lives in San Diego so we could visit her family as well, go to the zoo....did I mention the beach??,,,, I would leave my older two with family in a heartbeat but I don't want to leave my six month old for four days bc he is a nursing baby and I just am not ready for that. What would you do????
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He did say he would talk it over with his boss, who knows, they may be fine with it!! We'll see, but I am thinking more and more that we should go, I mean, it's freakin' Cali baby!!
You know what? It is really not appropriate to take a infant, or child on a business trip.
I know it sounds harsh, but it is just not professional.
It is an adults only type of event.
Like a cocktail party, adults only if at a spa and resort..
Now if it was at Disney World.. that would be different.
Why cant you take the baby with you? You won't have any fun because you will be thinking about the baby.Let us know what you decided.
I travelled extensively with my husband on business. Because many of the events were definitely not kid friendly, the company had specific family trips that were meant for the whole dang kit and kaboodle and they paid for all expenses.
However, it would have been extremely inappropriate to take children of any age to the black tie events.
If you're fine leaving the older two children, take your baby and enlist your friend to watch your baby for the adult portions of the trip such as the dinner. I would also have her watch the baby for the spa. I don't know how you could possibly enjoy a spa with a wriggly 6 month old. That kind of defeats the relaxation aspect of it.
I was a nursing mother too, in fact, I nursed my son for 15 months. We travelled, but I didn't take him to swanky events.
It takes a little planning, but it's not impossible to figure out how to have some grown up time with your husband, even if you take all your kids.
San Diego is pretty. You'll really enjoy it.
Best wishes!
A lot depends on your husbands work culture.
In the company I worked for, bringing a baby on a trip like this would have been a big no no and doing so anyway would have led to being fired.
They had kids events (Halloween party, company picnic, etc) and kids were welcomed and expected.
But bringing kids to the fancy dress ice sculpture Christmas dinner party was not allowed.
You either got a sitter or you didn't go.
There's a time and place for kids and by the sound of it, this trip isn't a trip for a baby.
It would be nice for your husband to be taking his Mom.
At a work function, you behave in a way to impress your colleagues, so bringing some buddy along might not be a good way to do that (depends on the buddy).
Once the baby is older, you'll be able to leave him and siblings with relatives for a company trip.
You're in prime 'Mommy' time right now, and there will be other trips.
I used to run these kind of events for my old company. Bring the little one on the trip but it would be best NOT to bring him to any of the events (beach: yes; dinner: no).
If it were me, with a six month old & a chance to spend some time with my husband, I'd leave the other kids home. Of course, take the baby, but if you have the chance to have some time with your man, find someone to stay with your older kids and take that man to the beach!
This is a loaded question...
1. No, it is NOT okay to bring a baby to a work event, unless that even is the company family picnic, which this is not.
2. It is NOT okay to bring a baby to a spa-like environment. People are there to relax, not listen to a screaming kid.
3. If you DO go, ask your best bud ever to babysit for you so that you can enjoy some time with your hubs.
4. If you DO make it a family vacation, stay at a different, but close hotel.
Go on the trip and take the baby if you're not comfortable leaving him home. You can't pass up a nice vacation like that. Skip the fancy work dinner (have husband go alone), or hire a local sitter (maybe your best bud in SD) to watch the baby for the evening.
Whether or not you bring the other kids is up to you, but I think you should definitely go on the trip.
I'd go and take the baby, but NOT bring him to the company dinner. It's just not appropriate to bring a small baby to a work function. The other people at the dinner will be there for work and to have a good time, not to listen to someone else care for their child. Hire a babysitter in the hotel, or have your husband go to the dinner alone.
I don't know why you'd even have to think about it. The baby goes, you have a friend why can't they babysit for a little while so you and hubby can attend this dinner. If it is even hours and hours the little one, at 6 months, can drink 100% juice. It's not like the baby can't get by for a few hours without you...lol.
If you could swing bringing some family who could watch baby (and older sibs) while you had a nice dinner with your husband's coworker's and turn in this into a family vaca, I would do it in a heartbeat!!!
Go. Take the baby. Enjoy yourself and take an Ergo carrier for long walks on the beach. You'll both love it! As for the dinner, either have the friend babysit for a few hours, or go for as long as the baby holds out, then excuse yourself. (you'll be well rested to hit the beach again in the morning!)
At 6 months your little one may be just as excited about the seagulls at the beach as the animals at the zoo...just a thought.
Yes, GO! I did this often when we had just one - tagged along on the hubby's business trips. Used the points he accumulated for my tickets, shared the lovely hotel rooms and played somewhere new all day. It was great!
I would go... take the baby.
I would take the baby. Nursing babies are so much easier to travel with. Or, I wouldn't go.
I want to tell you to go, but I just don't think this is an appropriate trip for the little one.
Sounds like a trip your husbands company has planned for a little R&R. You have a lot of plans for his trip. I think you need to plan a separate family trip.
I would take the baby. He's a nursling. You can always get up from the table and walk about if you need to do that. If your husband is good with it, don't second guess it. If he comes to you with a concern, then maybe you two can work out more details. But, if it were our family, we'd take the baby and go enjoy ourselves. Do you have a "nanny" who can help you? Would your best bud ever be willing to babysit the baby for the dinner out? So many ways to work around this if it is a problem. Enjoy!
If you DON'T go on this trip, I will personally fly down to TX and kick your butt. You're a mom of 3! You NEED this vacation. Take all the kids, have a nice family vacation, get your best bud to babysit while you and your husband do the dinner thing. DO IT!!!
Ooo, wait... Better yet. How about I go to cali with your husband instead, cause I only have 1 kiddo and I NEED a vacation and I LOVE San Diego! I'll even spring for the separate hotel room! :)
If you can afford the tickets for your other two kids and a grandma, I'd take them all. Have grandma keep them while you are doing company "stuff." When I went on a corporate sales trip years back, there were families with kids who brought a nanny or grandma. Sometimes we would have events and kids were not really welcome. Most of the time, however, we were doing our own thing.
Go, stay with your friend and then join your husband when your friend can watch the baby here and there. Be sure to reward your friend greatly!
LOL I like Victoria_Raes answer... She has a great sense of humor... She and I would get along just fine... You dont have to stay with your hubby at the hotel. Stay with your friend and visit hubby for the dinner and to spend some quality time with him. ~hint hint~ Just go and enjoy visiting your friend and SEEING "CALI BABY"!! lol
Your baby will still be very young (sleeping and nursing). This age seems easier than 18 months to 4 years. My husband and would go to dinner with our first child thinking 'what's the big deal, he just sleeps in the car seat.' Once he was a little over a year it started getting hard, by 18 months we would have to scarf down our food and ask for the check right when our food arrived because our son would either want to run around or talk loud.
I was embarrassed to take my baby to a nice pre-school fundraiser dinner, so stayed home instead. I found out we would have been welcomed since she was considered 'babes in arms.' Meaning she was not crawling and getting into things. In case you are wondering, I was going to use a babysitter for my son who was about 3, I just didn't want to leave a new baby with anybody.
